So my husband has been caught cheating several times, we have been trying to work at it because I love him, I want it to work and I want my family together (3 kids)
He is currently working away from home, which I asked him not to do but he went because the money was good. He was caught cheating (the night before we went on holiday) with someone where he works while I was pregnant. He said it was just about sex said he was sorry and I agreed to give it another go!
Things got better for a while and I felt really good about us. However it’s all gone downhill again, we had a massive argument when he was home because he wanted to go out and I wanted him to spend time with me and the kids, we hardly get to see him! He had agreed that this trip home would be all about us even though he really wanted to be out watching his football team. During the match it all changed he decided he wanted to go out and when I said I thought that was out of order he went in a huff and didn’t speak to me for a day! It came to a massive argument, I lost the plot I was so upset, I told him how it all makes me feel again, I told him how much we value his time home, I told him how much I worry when he’s out that he’s up to something! He said he’s fed out with the way I am when he goes out ( I always want to know where he is and when he’ll be home, I gone take if he’s not home when he said he wil he, I’ve told him I don’t want to be like this but I can’t help it) I asked him several times to go out and come home when he’s says to build trust and then maybe I won’t be so bad but every time he goes out he doesn’t come home till usually the next day or well into the small hours. Many times he’s out he’s with people I don’t know, people he’s not seen for years, it never seems to be with his friends that I know!
Last night he went out while Woking away, I asked him if he was out and I got a one word answer back the. No other contact till 5am when he told me he was in a guy from his works house waiting for a taxi, the taxi never came and he walked home, I was asking questions and he said he didn’t realise the house was so close, now i know he knows where the guy stays so I asked where he was he said in a guy from the pubs house, so it seemed the story had changed and he claims and he met a guy in the pub on Thursday night and they were chatting. He went out with his room mate who he works with, the room mate went home early but he stayed out with this guy he met, then went back to a party in his house with a crowd of people. I have went off my head, I don’t know if he’s telling the truth, I’ve told him he could have been with anyone and why is he going home to peoples houses he’s just met. He doesn’t see the big deal! Says he’s done nothing but I can’t believe it. Plus i said he’s left me in a situation of doubt and why would he do that after all he’s put me through! He said he didn’t think but I feel if he’s wanting to make things better then surly he should be considering this! He knew fine well I’d be worrying about where he was. He says he’ll prove where he was and who he was with but I don’t think he will!
I don’t know what to do, I love him so much but I feel I get nothing back!