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PND and leaving

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SilenceRiver · 15/12/2019 17:34

I have named changed.

I'm starting to think I'm suffering with PND. A lot of stressful things have happened all at once. I have moved house, had a baby and been unwell.

I don't believe my DP loves me or even likes me. He is always happy when he comes in but he doesn't seem to want anything to do with me. I appreciate it may be a reflection of my mental state but we now a 5 year mortgage and I want to leave. My money is safe tied into the house. I would continue to pay the mortgage and renovations but hopefully live with my mum. Perhaps in the future I could move back. I would be entitled too as half the house is mine. Perhaps we could co parent in the future in the same house but be separate.

I'm doing all the baby things myself. He has changed 2 nappies and has various reasons why he can't / won't. I do all the night feeds etc.

So could I leave and just worry about it all later when feeling better?

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RLEOM · 15/12/2019 17:52

Go to the doctors and get antidepressants as soon as possible.

I felt like this, f#cked up my relationship (he was being an a-hole, though) and didn't get help until I'd caused too much damage to return (I left when our baby was 3 months old).

Everything felt heightened - I was crazy and depressed. I've mentally missed the first year of my child's life and broke up our family, and it hurts.

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SilenceRiver · 15/12/2019 17:57

I'm sorry to hear that @RLEOM how are things now?

I just don't think I can continue to live with him. He doesn't care about me or our beautiful baby. He clearly loves his other children more and I think given the chance he'd get back with his ex. I'm sure if I left they'd move in. In that regard I would need to protect my interest in the house for me and our baby.

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TheHootiestChristmasOwl · 15/12/2019 18:04

Have you spoken to him about how you feel?

If you think you have PND then you really need to talk to your GP or HV for support.

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SilenceRiver · 15/12/2019 18:12

I have tried. We don't communicate well. When I have said I feel that he doesn't care about me he tells me not to tell him who he cares about.

I'm not stupid or mad I can see how he acts differently. He last told me he loved me when I gave birth three weeks ago. Before that it was months before. When I was pregnant he dumped me twice but got the house he wanted as I earn good money.

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TheHootiestChristmasOwl · 15/12/2019 18:15

So can you not get him to leave?

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SilenceRiver · 15/12/2019 18:17

I'd rather leave myself. I have no desire to remain in the house. I would rather he did.

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TheHootiestChristmasOwl · 15/12/2019 18:17

So you both own the house jointly? Both on the deeds and pay the mortgage?

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SilenceRiver · 15/12/2019 18:37

Yes. We both own 50% respectively as tenants in common.

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