Cheating husband

[mammashark]

Hi all

The photo says it all really.

Not sure what to do really, I want to kick his butt to the curb but with Christmas and a very exciting weekend of Christmas activities with the Little's lm not sure how to approach it. Plus all his family have been invited to our for christmas as he wanted a special one without his mum.
My husbands mum died a few months ago (not an excuse but I don't think he is coping well).

He went away Sunday early evening, stayed in a hotel for a course on Monday.

I'm absolutely distraught and don't know what to do.

Oh OP, I'm so sorry for this. I really do not believe this was his first time doing this if he was on that App for so long. I would not have been able to keep quiet about it either.

A friend has just gone through a divorce and I can tell you that a good solicitor can find out anything so you do not need to do all that finding the money stuff (unless your DH was an oil Sheik or a Prince or something) for most people, you can find their money.

Please stay in your home if you can and he agrees to leave. If not, could you go to your parents? or friends or family?

How gross. A prostitute they all use 🤮

I’m so sorry op. Your husband is clearly broken beyond repair and it’s time to bin him.

Enjoy your day out with the kids!! 💐

I’m sorry.
Gather your documents, plan the split.
Are you going ahead with Christmas or will he be gone before then?

so sorry you are going through this. definitely get a solicitor x

I'm so sorry OP. How disrespectful. And just before Christmas.

like it’s ok any other time

deep bow

I'm so sorry op

A prostitute they all share!?!? They must go on an awful lot of work courses then, given the days he's racked up on KiK!

So sorry you're going through this. Some good advice on here re solicitors though, and yes to getting yourself tested ASAP.

No nothing happened cos she was busy. What a knob. Absolutely shocking.

I'm so sorry OP. You deserve so much better x

Oh how bloody awful. I am so sorry he’s turned out to be such a rotten bastard, OP.

He's been on Kik for a year, so likely cheating at least that long.

Where did the cash come from? Does he have his own account? If joint, can you see it coming out recently, or did he squirrel the money away over time (planning)?

It's also possible that cash was in his wallet for the next prostitute visit, not that one you saw him attempt to set up.

He's lying and willingly putting your sexual health (and life) at risk.

Google treatment resistant gonorrhea, congenital syphilis and high risk strains of HPV (cervical/oral cancer) for just a few of the delights he russian roulettes you and any potential pregnancy with on a regular basis.

A prostitute they all use?

That's one of the most grim things I've read on here.

I'm so sorry OP

Do not even entertain the thought of staying with this guy "for the children"

It's also highly likely that he has met this woman before. There are no introductions or anything, just a straight "are you free tonight?"

This made me feel sick for you OP, I'm so sorry

I would also put money on this not being the first time, men can be truly disgusting

I don't believe his story

Kik is a secret messaging app, no phone numbers exchanged, a prostitute woudnt use it would they?

Where does he work ? Do you really think they all use the same prostitute?

I'm so sorry OP. You dont have to fake christmas. You dont have to stay. This is all on him.

That is utterly vile.

And it's not his first time, with an account opened that long

The "recommended by a friend" line is horseshit. I've been involved in the sex industry for ten years and never ever known two clients that would ever intimate that they know each other. Especially married ones. It has literally just hit me how many times I've read that bullshit line on here.

I dont even get why they think it makes it better but do not stray into believing he is some poor soul been plucked from the herd and dragged kicking and screaming down the wrong path

So sorry you have to deal with this awful situation. Its unlikely your H has done this as a result of his mums death as the timeline goes back way before then.
Please dont fall for the recommended by a friend either this is an excuse to normalise what he has been doing as in all his friends do it so it must be ok?
I totally understand the shock you must be feeling as sadly it happened to me. Found a message like yours and after digging found a totally double life going back 7 years. Same thing Kik badoo hook up sites brothel bookings and mysterious cash withdrawals 10 mins after ringing brothels.
I stayed/ forgave but then he became better at hiding it ( extra phone visits to sites on how to conceal what he was doing puntersnet adult work and donkey work) but not before I contracted an STD and had a severe mental breakdown and had to go in a mental health unit.
Please dont be me. They wont change just get better at hiding it. Its a choice they make.
It had a happy ending I eventually left ( after 4 years) of gaslighting and am now happily remarried to amazing man. But it did scar me.
My ex had a gf for a year but she ended it after he did the same to her.
I know it will be hard to get through the festive stuff but be in no doubt if you free yourself this time next year you will be in a very different place x

Sorry OP, I think he has been doing this for years. Please get a STI test done. So glad you have decided to leave him. Not all men are like this.