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Ex wife is becoming a problem. Help!

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Mumtoaprincess25 · 14/12/2019 05:42

Long story cut short. Me and my husband have been together 4 years, he has an ex wife and we have never really got on with one and other. Recently she moved into the road I also live on, she has turnt up several times to my door drunk, texting my husband (he has showed me the messages and it's nothing flirty) yet she always wants to talk to him.

She likes to make a point to anyone who will listen that she is over him but her actions say different.

As of lately it has started causing arguments between me and my husband because I don't like what she is doing but he says just to ignore her but if I am honest I feel like she is trying to come between us.

I would go and see her face to face but she is not one to reason with and it would only turn into a fight and I have kids at home, I am not willing to bring trouble to my door.

What should I do?
Thankyou

OP posts:
Takethebullbth · 14/12/2019 06:08

Urgh, that’s a tough one. Do they share children? My best guess would be, she was done, thought there was better out there for her, but it hasn’t panned out & now is resentful that he is happy with someone else? But at the end of the day, this is your husbands job to put boundaries in place, by whatever means necessary. Clearly she is hurting but even without knowing the full story, it needs to stop , for all your sakes.

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Mumtoaprincess25 · 14/12/2019 06:35

Yes, they have children but they're grown up now (moved out, had kids etc). His answer is just to ignore her & I do try but it's really getting to me now. She is also married, I don't know if her Husband knows she is doing this.

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itsmecathycomehome · 14/12/2019 06:37

How many times is 'several' times, and what does she want when she turns up wanting to talk to him?

FredaFrogspawn · 14/12/2019 06:38

If this is the same husband as you described in another post this morning - hand him over and hope he never comes back.

Tryingtobepositive2020 · 14/12/2019 07:40

I saw your other post earlier this morning about your husband. Never mind the ex wife being a problem, he sounds like more or a problem. Kick him to the curb

OldEvilOwl · 14/12/2019 15:12

What does she actually want when she is texting and turning up? I would ignore her and don't even answer the door

NameChangeNugget · 14/12/2019 16:13

She sounds extremely bitter.

Explain to her you’ll be reporting her

itsmecathycomehome · 14/12/2019 21:09

She might be bitter but I'm not sure that several texts and drunk visits, that don't seem to bother OP's dp, would be taken seriously if reported.

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