I’ve thought about posting for years on here but haven’t done so, so here goes. Does anyone anywhere have this problem? My DH has incredibly erratic sleep patterns and it affects all of us. He doesn’t come to bed several nights per week. He’s up, at the 24 hour gym, working, browsing the internet, listening to music, falling asleep periodically over the computer. He sleeps erratically during the day and has a job (music) which means he only really works a few eves per week (but late ones). He falls asleep during films, during conversation & a few years ago passed out whilst cycling and ended up in hospital. He refuses to accept that this behaviour is bad for him or us (we have two children) and he’s been like it for decades (he’s now middle aged). I’ve grown to accept this as normal behaviour. His point is that, just because he’s unusual, his behaviour isn’t wrong - it’s just out of synch with society. He gets resentful as I and the kids have a normal pattern (I work full time and the kids are at school) and says that that he doesn’t come home as the house is unwelcoming (we are asleep). I can keep the family functioning, but often feel like a single parent. I worry about what we are modelling to the kids. I have a full life full of friends & think I’ve coped by normalising things but don’t know whether that’s made me part of the problem. My DH, I think, has been like this since a teenager & think his dad might have been similar too. Our relationship isn’t great and have come to think I’ve taken on some sort of parent role. He gets annoyed that I don’t want sex with him, but I’m knackered and just about coping but feel quite alone. I don’t want us to split up and he’s a good parent most of the time. Anyone anywhere coping with this or is it really just me?!!