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Tinder and location

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ultraboosts · 13/12/2019 18:22

Hello, I have of course googled but still muddled. Guy I'm seeing made a big deal of telling me he deleted tinder when he met me. I have not deleted Tinder and told him but said I'm not looking.

Went on tinder tonight, spooky feeling as he is on works night out, he is still in my matches and his location had changed. Not overly concerned that he hasn't deleted as I know it can be tricky BUT as his location has changed does this mean he is still accessing Tinder? Thank you for help.

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Notcoolmum · 13/12/2019 19:15

If location has changed he's still active on tinder.

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ultraboosts · 13/12/2019 19:17

That is what I thought .... bloody hell it is depressing dating today Blush

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ultraboosts · 13/12/2019 19:17

So no chance if already lying to me ...

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ultraboosts · 13/12/2019 19:21

Just messaged him on Tinder, will be interesting to see response ...

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booboo24 · 13/12/2019 20:25

He'll probably say 'well so are you' the problem is you went on it, even though it was only to see if he is on it too.

Had you both agreed to come off it? He told you he deleted it but maybe he reactivated it when he realised you hadn't deleted yours, not great either way though

managedmis · 13/12/2019 20:26

Oh my god

CruellaDeVille2019 · 13/12/2019 20:42

OP this is almost stalkerish behaviour. He may have been trying to work out how to delete the app for all you know. You obviously haven't been together long or you would have deleted your own profile.

Personally if someone I was in the early stages of dating sent me a message like that then I would be ending the relationship. It's controlling.

beautifulxdisasters · 13/12/2019 20:46

Why are you on Tinder tonight then? Looking for other guys? Or just checking up on (aka stalking) him?

beautifulxdisasters · 13/12/2019 20:46

I would run a million miles if I was him OP

LouisaJenny · 14/12/2019 20:03

What was the outcome OP?

carly2803 · 14/12/2019 20:27

this is doomed to fail if its like this so early on!!
dump and move on OP!

Groovinpeanut · 14/12/2019 21:05

So you're still on Tinder? You've now gone on to Tinder to ask why he's on Tinder? Hmmm, your logic here isn't making an awful lot of sense.
Surely his response is going to reflect that you've been on to see if he's on?
This kind of behaviour isn't healthy. Especially so soon after meeting.
I'd just knock it on the head, you'll be tying yourself up in knots.

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