How did your life change in the 2010's

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Ok so I've seen this going around and I think it's interesting to look back on how things have changed in our lives from 2010 to 2019. It's crazy that the decade is almost over. I feel like I'm getting old and haven't done enough in life 😮😮😮 but that'll all change in the next year onwards. For me this decade has been a very up and down one. A lot of lessons throughout. A lot of good times and struggles but it's all part of life.

I want to hear about your decade in review ☺️💕

Absolutely shitloads has happened for me.

Jan 2010 got promoted at work to a much better role.

Got pregnant for the first time in 2010, before I had even realised, it didn't stick and then in Dec 2010 I fell pregnant for the second time with dd who was born Aug 2011.

I then did a degree, through the OU whilst pg and when she was teeny.

Lost a beloved grandparent.

I escaped domestic violence. Lost a big group of friends who were and are to this day, on his side.

Graduated. Did another post grad degree. Met now DH. Changed job sector and did another post grad degree.

Passed my driving test. Changed jobs a few times and moved house twice.

2017 moved us in with (now) dh to the house we call home.

2018 was the best year of my life so far. Got engaged, got a dog, left a job and decided on a huge life changing career change. Bought my second car outright (the one I had really wanted for years) Got married and had a honeymoon.

2019 has been the absolute worst year of my life. Enacted the career change but didn't realise the timing was unfortunate and start date became massively delayed pushing us into financial difficulty.
A friend of our's died in October and loads of other stuff went wrong in our house. One of our pets died suddenly on firework night.

MIL starting to show signs of dementia.

My lovely dog nearly died and had to have epic surgery costing 4k.

I am very glad this year is nearly over to be honest.

In 2010 I started my professional career and met my future DH. Had DD end of 2012 and DS in 2015 and got married in between. Moved overseas twice and bought 2 houses. So quite a lot!!

2010 - met wonderful man on a night out and fell in love instantly
2011 - got unexpectedly pregnant
2012 - had DD
2013 - bought our first home
2014 - had DS
2015 - met a group of fantastic friends
2016 - full renovation on house
2017 - wonderful man proposed
2018 - got married
2019 - bought dream home

Got engaged, got married, had 4 children in 5 yrs, bought our absolute perfect home and are just a hair away from finishing epic renovations of it.

The decade before was epic too. What the hell am I going to do for the next decade to make it worthwhile??

Nothing massive in 2010-2019, through the ages of 35-46.

In that time we've been in the same house, I've had the same job, no further children, still happily married, no big upheavals or changes in any area of my life.

The previous decade was bigger in that sense as that was the decade of starting a family and moving jobs and houses. Next decade will be more changes as dd will be 18 and will go to university and leave home, we will do more as just the two of us like holidays, etc.

Got major promotion at work.
DP dad passed away.
Last grandparent passed away.
Diagnosed with early stages of chronic illness.
Lost a heap of weight and got much fitter.
Both beloved kitties passed away.
Became a citizen of the country where we live.

Not as eventful as previous decade, but have been supporting friends through various changes and losses. I imagine next decade will be a lot more turbulent.

Started the decade married and pregnant.
Ending it divorced with an amazing almost 10 year old.
Moved house 4 times.
Changed job 3 times.

I got old! Between early 30s and early 40s one officially becomes undeniably no longer young. I look it too, unfortunately :)

Did fitness qualifications but didn't go far with it IRL. Learnt a lot more about my health- I already was diagnosed with bipolar, but they now also say I have ADHD with autistic features. For a while before that they were trying to say I was Borderline/had borderline traits, which I found hard to come to terms with but eventually got my head around, only for them to say no, it's ADHD etc, and low self esteem due to how people have treated me due to it.

Oh and I got a council flat, so god willing I won't have to put up with private renting ever again! The block might not be pretty, but I can walk into the city centre. :)

Thanks for asking! xx

Got through the hard yards of raising small children.

Youngest is 10 now so the next decade will be different. I’m sitting here on my own this morning (LP, both children at a sleepover) and realising how much work I’ll have to do to build a life of my own once the DCs are gone.

I was 16 in 2010.
I was sporty and active and popular at school, but had a serious accident in 2011 at 17yo which dragged on into the summer of 2012 (18yo), during which time I couldn’t walk unaided and it flagged up a serious chronic health problem I’d been trying to ignore.
I broke up with the boyfriend I’d been with since 2009 almost as soon as I got off the crutches... me being able to go out actually highlighted how controlling he was.
Spent a glorious year being single and shagging and drinking and having a wonderful time, until summer 2013 (19yo) when I got with a guy who seemed perfect. Complete whirlwind, moved in with him within three months (probably closer to two), got a little dog, did my best to be the perfect girlfriend and he started hitting me. Couldn’t go home, abusive SDad was still around, so I stuck it out.
Got a brilliant job I loved, met a man I fell for almost immediately, I was very ashamed of myself for the way I felt but didn’t do anything at all about that til 2015 (21yo) when I broke up with abusive ex, moved home and got myself back. Hooked up with work guy (14 years older and so bloody sexy) a couple times until he went travelling for six months. He had intentions of restarting when he came home but while he was away I met my now husband. Work guy remains adamant I made a mistake, maybe I’m his one that got away.
2016 (22yo) I moved in with him. Little dog came too! Engaged 2018 (24yo), married this summer (25yo). Now a partner in his business, which requires a lot of work.
And I’ve just left my job, the one which pulled me through the shitty previous relationship and taught me so very much. It had stopped working for me and while I’m incredibly sad about it, it’s for the best. Onwards and upwards.
Cheers to 2020 🥂

Came out of the last decade having to pick myself up after my business failed and I had to close my shop down. Luckily I had an alternative career to fall back on and my career has progressed really well since then. I have worked at five different companies in the last 10 years and feel really proud of what I have achieved professionally. I have also raised my DD from the age of 2-11 to become the loveliest, kindest, sweet girl who I am immensely proud of so that is also an achievement. However, I started the decade in an unhappy place in my relationship and I am finishing it in the same way. I literally feel stuck and paralysed when it comes to making that change but writing this post makes it all the more clear how much time I am wasting by not being brave. I hope SO much that I will be looking back in 2029 on the next decade with the ability to say I left him and it was the best thing I ever did.

2010 got married, pregnant with Dc3, DH ended up working 300 miles away.
2011 DC3 born, DH still working 300 miles away. Then only 100 miles away.
2012 moved overseas so we could live together as family. He lost his job, got a new one. Moved house again and homeschooled DC
2013. DC started overseas school. Moved house again. Started business with friend.
2014 DH diagnosed with brain tumour. 8 weeks in UK to have it removed (privately) and recover. Back overseas.
2015. Went back to work in entry level, swiftly promoted to normal level of my work.
2016. Actually can't think of anything much!
2017. Decided to relocate back to UK but not same town. Dealt with all that, kids started new school.
2018. Started ad hoc work. DH lost job. Then I went full time temporary. DH got new job. Moved house twice. Then DH diagnosed with brain tumour regrowth. DH started radiotherapy.
2019. DH radiotherapy or chemotherapy for whole year. Made permanent at work. Moved house again and had a full rewire and loft conversion done.

Quite frankly, it's been mad. I had a 3 and 1.5yr old at beginning of 2010. 2020 sees me with a 13,11, 9 yr old and a husband with an incurable brain tumour. But - we're finally in a house we love and are comfortable in, we can afford the mortgage comfortably on my salary alone and the kids are, considering everything, absolutely flipping amazing.

Moved to France and back again....

Got divorced...

Moved house again...

Lost my Great Aunt

Lost one elderly and one young cat, but gained two more..

Realised who real friends were and made stronger bonds/ more effort to keep I touch with them...

Took time to do some stuff "just for me" for first time in a long while....

I've gone from having toddlers to teenagers/preteens, turned 40, took on more responsibility at work, lost weight, started to have hobbies again.

We're moving house in the new year which will be the biggest change.

Still in the same career, same husband, same dcs (as in haven't had any more!) so nothing that major really.

Started life with a new partner

Started a new sporting hobby with my partner & we have travelled all over the world & have had amazing adventures together to places that I could never have imagined visiting

Made redundant from a job & people that I enjoyed working with

Relocated for new employment

Bought properties

Despite relocation, I've continued to spend quality time with family & friends (including helping during times of loss & illness)

I still do some of my original hobbies

I still appreciate the small things in life
I've enjoyed the laughter
I've worked through the hard times

2010: finishing up at university, broke up with a psycho ex which meant my career plans had to change dramatically
2011: applied for and failed to get onto PGCE course
2012: working in retail, living alone and having the time of my life
2013-2014: had second depressive episode which resulted in me losing all my friends and becoming extremely isolated. But at the end of 2014 I met a wonderful guy....and adopted a wonderful cat
2015: moved house with new guy and new cat. Got second cat
2016: bought first house with new guy and also changed career from retail so something wonderful although hard work. Also got engaged.
2017: saving for wedding. Adopted third cat. Went on holiday with fiancé
2018: got married, got pregnant and built an extension
2019: had baby, lost first grandparent, got pnd and gone back to work early as despite loving my DD to pieces I bloody hated mat leave. Just been promoted at work and am buzzing for what the next decade brings!

Got engaged
Got married
Miscarried
Dark depression episode part 1
Had DS
Divorced
Depression and anxiety part 2
Found true love, independence, self respect and freedom within myself
Embraced being a single mum
Gave up alcohol
Anxiety decreased
Built up my career
Focused on enjoying and celebrating motherhood whilst Iearning that I was a 'good enough' mum
Relaxed and spent more time being silly and having fun with my beautiful DS
Met the love of my life
Found true happiness within myself

Bring it on 2020 and let the fun and love begin

Continued my adventures in random countries
Met f**kwit ....married him, found out he cheated on me and had a child with gf while were together...but got a fab job in another country so got rid of him
Did my Masters
Spent a whole year and a bit living as a real grown up in the UK (bills, rent etc) (Jibs overseas include housing etc)
Met some fabulously lovely people and got back in contact with old friends
Got together with an old boyfriend....was nice...but didn't last
Did 3 5ks

2010/11 - dealing with illness and operation but went on to be sorted. I'm lucky.

2012 - met someone who turned my life upside down. Brief unhealthy fling which left me down for longer than it should have.

2015 - got promoted

15-18 - lots of work stress

2016 - got my own place

2020 - working somewhere new but within job which will be exciting.

My parents have had ongoing issues with health but I'm acuteley aware of how lucky I am to have them still. I wasn't very close to them fof a few years but we get on better now.

Friendships have waxed and waned. Have a few good people around me now though. Better than done of the toxic people I had before.

I'm extremely lucky to have relative security in my life. Truly grateful.

Travelled a bit with work and see and done some interesting things.

Happy to be in a position to look outwardly Into the world rather than the navel ga, ING work forced me to do for a time.

I would like to work on my personal life in the 20s. Its been something that at has never really happened for me. I'm absolutely fine on my own but be nice yo have a laugh with someone. Doesn't necessarily need to be a relationship.

Overall, thankful and grateful and try to pay that forward.

2010: got engaged.
2012: got married and moved away for husband's work. Fell pregnant.
2013: DS was born and I quit work to be a SAHM. Husband got an amazing job offer back in our home city.
2014: moved back to home city. Husband and I separated 2 months later. I moved in with my parents and then into my own place. Had to go on benefits.
2016: got divorced finally.
2017: DS started school. I went back to work and got back on my feet after 3 tough years.
2018: got a new, better job. Travelled to some amazing places. Life is good.
2019: saved up enough money for a house deposit and will start looking to buy in the new year.

All of that in my 20s. I turn 30 next year. I'm the happiest I've ever been.

Started 2010 with a decent enough job, no children, good health, boyfriend.

Got married, had DC1, lost job, started my degree, had DC2, became ill and then disabled, H lost job and became my carer, was generally a twat, got divorced, finished my degree, came out, dated, met DP, got engaged to DP.

Starting 2019 with a degree but unable to work, 2DCs, fiancée and disabled.

Not much changed!

*2020!

Oh my goodness. I’ve been stuck, and apart from lovely children, miserable..Tried to do diy lost impetus
Couldn’t find work that suited school hours and husband, He wants me to have amazing career. I somehow lost confidence after children and moving to new town
Lots of rows about me not working. Lots of rows because I found part time work in a shop which isn’t good enough.
Seriously I’ll, recovered
Finally getting some confidence back.
Dh tells me I’m wasting my time.
Dh hates his job
Not good, this needs reviewing.
The ten years before I’d had great career, own flat, lots of chums. Thanks for the realisation!

I became a single mum. Gave up on finding someone decent, & focussed on my & my ds’s well being.
The last seven years have been much better, calm & happy, Finances sorted. I’m looking forward to the 2020s with real optimism & pleasure.

Hmmmmm - well now this has really opened my eyes!

Met, marrie dand divorces my ex husband
Found myself in an abusive relationship - and escaped it
Bought and sold my first house
Lost my Mum
Met the man of my dreams
It has been turbulent but i am in a good place now :)