I went on a ‘first’ date mid November and we got on great (I say ‘first’ date because we actually met in 2017 but it wasn’t the right time for me, my marriage had just broken down. We got back in contact in September).
Our first date was to a cute boutique restaurant near me which I booked and he paid for. Since then I’ve seen him twice, once for lunch and once to take my dogs to the wood both times my suggestion although he is always asking when he is going to see me next. He works strange hours and I have kids so we haven’t, yet, been able to date in the traditional sense (dinner in a Saturday night sort of thing).
We have both taken today off work so we can spend the whole day together. It was his idea and I was looking forward to spending time with him, although we like about half an hours drive away from each other, we both can easily travel into London so I was getting excited about what he could have planned. Anyway, he initially asked me if we could go out in the evening instead because he had somewhere he wanted to take me, it would have been a bit of a faff to sort out my kids and pets but I would definitely have done it. He then tells me that he’s having trouble with the website and would I mind booking it (he wasn’t asking me to pay for it), I was a bit put out tbh, i just thought why is he asking me to book my own ‘surprise’, surely he has a friend who could book it for him. But I looked at the bigger picture, maybe it’s a show and he is having trouble navigating the website? I figured it must be good if we’ve both taken the day off work and he’s changing plans to the evening. So I agreed to look at it, he wanted me to book a steakhouse close to his house! I was so annoyed!!! We live near one of the most vibrant cities in the world and the only thing he could come up with is his local steakhouse! I told him no, I couldn’t make the evening and sent him some ideas of places I’d like to go, seeing as he hadn’t come up with anything. His response to those was that he would be happy to do anything I want to do but he didn’t pick one or do anything about booking anything.
So we are due to go out today and nothing is booked or planned and I’m really annoyed. I’m self employed do it had cost me money to take the day off, I’ve paid to put my dogs into doggie daycare and I’ve paid for after school Childcare.
Our last conversation was last night and he just reiterated that he is happy to do what I want to do, but I wanted him to organise something. I don’t know how I feel about him now?
Am I being ridiculous to feel let down?
I could meet him and do something I want to do, a museum or fancy lunch somewhere, but quite frankly, I don’t want to.
WWYD?