Can you get to 40 and never have experienced love?

[BleakHouse119]

I met a dear friend tonight. He has a girlfriend who he has been with for over 10 years. He told me tonight that he’s not sure whether he has ever felt love. He says that he’s said it many times but not meant it. I presume that this means that he doesn’t love his girlfriend. He’s 40.

Are there some people who just don’t feel love? I’m perplexed. Can you get to 40 and never have experienced love?

For full disclosure I am very attracted to him.

Thanks to the people sharing their stories of never having been in love.

I find having deep feelings for someone quite irritating to me, it’s hard to explain, but I feel like they (the feelings) are nagging as they require a lot of attention, and then I get bored with having the feelings so it fizzles out.
He does sound like he’s spinning you a few lines, to get you into bed.

Stay away. He must have felt love at some point. Did his parents love him? He is trying to get a emotional connection with you. If I was you instead of getting involved in a emotional affair I would stay well away.. Unless of corse he is going to leave his gf. Even if he does leave his gf is he going to see the love you have to give him? I don't think he will if he hasn't felt love in 40years. I am a Christian and I love every one so I just don't get it.

Stay away. He must have felt love at some point. Did his parents love him?
I’m certain they did.

He is trying to get a emotional connection with you.
We’re very close already.

If I was you instead of getting involved in a emotional affair I would stay well away.. Unless of corse he is going to leave his gf. Even if he does leave his gf is he going to see the love you have to give him?
I think he already sees it.

I don't think he will if he hasn't felt love in 40years.
He hasn’t felt love for someone else but he will have been loved and felt love from others.

I am a Christian and I love every one so I just don't get it.
I love everyone too. Not a Christian though.

Do people honestly 'love' everyone?

Because i don't believe that. I don't think he's talking about the Christian values of treating everyone well and with kindness and respect. I think he's talking about romantic love and a deep emotional connection. I don't believe anyone feels that for everyone!

Having said that, it is a bit of a red flag. It suggests he is unable to form deep emotional connections with people. Especially if he is saying this all while he has a girlfriend.