Relationship doubts

[Washedoutlady]

I need a break from my relationship. I'm with a very kind and loving person. But I met him too soon after my marriage ended. I worry I cannot survive on my own and this has been playing on my mind.
I just feel really confused. I feel that if I really cared that much why am I having such doubts. I cannot imagine my life without him but then I think is that because I don't want to be on my own?
Has anyone had any experience of this. Please be gentle I'm feeling pretty unhappy at the moment.

Oh dear op. Did your past relationship end bad? How long have you been with your bf. I think lot's of people get into relationships to quickly after a break up although if you are serious and have strong feelings for your bf I'd give it time. If your bf knows your background that can help. It does sound to me like you have found yourself a good man and their's not many of them around. If I was you I'd definitely give it time.

My bf and I have been together two years but I've become unhappy and so confused.
I initiated the split with my DH and he refused to talk about anything. He just said he'd been an emotionally l devoid since his diving incident (that's another story)
We hardly ever argued but we had a big argument initiated by me and I wanted to talk and he just said, "what is there to talk about" after 18 yrs of marriage I realised I couldn't stay.
I have had counselling and started HRT for low moods.
My bf is lovely but he's very intense at times. I've had to slow things down.
I just feel if I was so sure about him why am I not happy?
I suppose it's possible to love someone but not be able to be with them. When I was younger I just got that gut feeling if a bf wasn't right and I just dumped them but then I'm not young anymore.
I think I need to talk to a professional about this.

I'm feeling pretty unhappy at the moment
This tells you all you need to know.
He is your 'rebound' guy and it's run it's course.
Of course you can survive on your own.
Millions of us do it day and day out.
I love being single.
Do what I want, when I want, eat what I want, go out, do hobbies, see family, see friends.
Just keep yourself busy.
You will be just fine - you are a grown up, so take back control of your OWN life and do things you enjoy.
Don't 'settle'!

I agree with hellsbells- being single is great. You can have friends who meet all your need for companionship, and if you want a lover, it's still possible to find one really at any age. Or, I have a 'magic wand' toy that fulfills all that without the effort. :)

You don't need a reason to not be in a relationship with someone. You don't have to justify it to anyone. The fact that you don't want to be or it doesn't feel right is enough.