Very awkward

[ElfisPresley]

I texted my crush that I liked him yesterday, at the end of the working day. I chose that time and particular day carefully because I won't have to communicate with him again since the thing we were both involved in had come to an end.

Well, it turns out that I have to speak to him again, he hasn't spoken to me about my text, and I think the way forward is to act as though I never sent it.
I probably shouldn't have sent it, but I wanted to put an end to my obsession by admitting it, and the hope that him rejecting me or ignoring/ avoiding me would help to get over him.

Teeny weeny part of me is hoping he likes me too
I'm single by the way, just not in a position to have a relationship with anyone right now. Yet there is this massive attraction

Is he single? Why can’t you have a relationship?

Cool story bro

I'm just not in a good place at the moment emotionally. I don't even know why I told him. I'm. It making good decisions at all.
And to@AnneTwackie I'm not a bro. And no this isn't a cool story. It's unpleasant. And I'm struggling with it

I’m sorry. It wasn’t really clear what response you wanted for from posters.
In one way it’s brave you put yourself out there, in another it wasn’t a very professional thing to do.
Sounds like you need to work on being happy with yourself. Maybe a text saying ‘I’m sorry if I misjudged the situation, I hope things won’t be awkward between us’.

You never know OP, he may still reply. It's not been long.

Is he single?

For me, his relationship status is relevant. If you were hoping that he’d leave a wife or partner, then the text was an unpleasant move, but if he’s single, you’ve done nothing wrong unless he’s your superior, or you his.

OP I’m sorry it hasn’t worked out (today at least - still time!). and sorry to hear you’re not in the best place emotionally. I get that you’re feeling hurt. But nobody makes perfect decisions all the time, don’t let this make you feel so bad about yourself. You can shrug this off
If he’s single too, then you’ve not done anything to warrant feeling self conscious. If he’s not single, an apology would likely smooth things over. Either way this is eminently survivable!

(Also, if he is single, then I think poor show on his part for not replying - not really cricket is it, to leave someone hanging after a text like that.)

I don't know if he's single. He's definitely not married, no kids, but I never asked him whether he was single. I was too busy trying to hide my feelings. He's never mentioned a partner or girlfriend.
Still not heard anything back. I'm telling myself he doesn't want to hurt my feelings.
At least I can move on

I think he could have replied, even if just to say 'sorry I don't share your feelings' but I imagine he's feeling a bit awkward.

I think if he liked you too he'd have replied in some way by now. Have you had any kind of friend/flirty/social relationship outside of work? If not it's a bit inappropriate to have texted him..

I would definitely not have texted not knowing his relationship status though, if he has a gf this could get him in a tricky situation!

He isn't interestedi'd just say sorry about the awkward text i had a few drinks, i dont want to make you uncomfortable hope we can pretend it never happened? And just act normal.

Just put down the phone and forget it.

@AnneTwackie. Was that comment really necessary?

And I don't think you understand what "Cool story, bro" means.

There was flirting. I don't regret sending the text and I would never have if I thought he had a girlfriend.

Don’t let this cause you angst. You were open and honest about your feelings and what more can we be? You have your integrity and your dignity. It’s fine. You’ll get over him if he’s not interested and he may yet be in touch if he is.

I've emailed him via work email because there's still unfinished details re a project. But I emailed in the normal way I would communicate with him. I also sent a text related to it.
I've decided to just carry on as normal as if I never sent that text

Do you know if he’s definitely read the message (such as two blue ticks on WhatsApp?)

Just play it cool with him, hold your head up high like it hasnt bothered you.

You took a chance nothing wrong with that, who knows why he hasnt replied or even if he should have done either way you let him know, stop thinking about it let yourself heal