I recently started a new job, and I have started to have feelings for my boss. I would be able to ignore it and just get on with things if my feelings didn't seem to be reciprocated, but he is showing signs that he might like me too, and I'm just wondering if anyone has ever got involved with their boss and NOT had it go completely pear-shaped. I'm not talking so much about people who work with their OH as part of a family business or who were already seeing him before they started working with him.
For background, we are similar ages and both single. He was on the interview panel when I went for the job, and although I sort of noticed he was quite attractive then, I was too preoccupied with the interview to think much more about it. It has only been since I started working with him that I started thinking about him in that way.
I am very aware of all the things that could potentially go wrong if I pursued this. I may have misinterpreted the way he's acting and then it would be terribly embarrassing. Or, if we did start something, people would be bound to assume that I'd got the job because the interviewer fancied me. He wouldn't be able to do my appraisals or ratings, I suppose. And if we split up it would be hideously awkward for me and probably everyone else too.
So I do know all the reasons it would be a bad idea, and yet still I keep thinking about him. I work remotely and I only see him face to face once every couple of weeks, so I probably have too much time to sit around idealising him in my head and being a bit teenaged and pathetic. I have been single for a long time and I don't consider myself to be at all attractive, so I had given up on relationships years ago, just assuming that it was never going to happen for me. None of this helps!
I would love to hear any stories from people who have been in a similar situation, good or bad. I probably just need to give my head a wobble and some stern words.