Why would DH say this?

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The other day at uni I unpacked my sandwiches at lunchtime and someone said 'you're organised!'. I said 'not really! My husband made them!' which then lead to comments 'aren't you lucky? etc.

That evening DH picks me up from uni and I told him the conversation. He said 'well didn't you tell them I made them because I was making my own sandwiches for work at the time!" as if he was a bit annoyed????

The thing is, I went to the library all day on Sunday and made me sandwiches to take without even asking me and he wasn't making any for himself because he wasn't going to work and didn't need any.

I don't get it!

What's wrong with with me telling people he's made them if he has?

Also, it made me feel a bit upset with his reply as to me it felt like 'I only made them for you because I was making my own otherwise I would not have bothered'.

But, as I say, at the weekend he did make them for me and didn't make his own???

He also cooks tea every night when he comes home from work and half the time washes up and never moans about it.

The whole thing just confuses me??

Am I thinking too much and being too sensitive?

"Am I thinking too much and being too sensitive?"

Umm, yes. Very much so. This is a total non issue.

Does it really matter that he said that?

He probably feels a bit embarrassed that he was made out to be under the thumb

Move on

What ms nobody said, do you often sweat thr small stuff?

Jesus Christ!

You honestly thought this was worthy of a thread?

"he was made out to be under the thumb"

What the fuck?
Since when is saying your partner has made your lunch "making them out to be under the thumb"?!
Making lunch for your partner is a kind and normal thing to do. No one blinks an eyelid when a wife does it for her husband!
If a woman told me her husband had made her lunch I'd think great, good for them.
Sadly a man who pulls his weight like that is rather rare.
OP, maybe your DH is worried about being judged, which would be sad but not surprising.
Google toxic masculinity. Gender stereotypes are harmful to men as well as women.

(I wouldn't sweat this one too much, though )

He's a bit embarrassed / shit at taking compliments?

Like when people say 'nice skirt' my reply is ' what this old thing? I bought in a charity shop a decade ago' when I should just say 'thanks' and move on?

Oh no!

Yes I do sweat over small stuff! I try not to but things worry me.

I'm glad you all said what you have about me overthinking. Somehow it's put my mind at rest!! lol!!

Huh?
This is a problem?

Percy

Well, yeah! It's been bugging me.

AnotherEmma

I agree I wouldn't consider it means he is under the thumb. He really isn't and he'd tell you that - if he knows what's good for him!! lol!! joke!!

Men are under loads of pressure still to fulfil the traditional male role in relationships. So even if they don’t believe it -they put on a front. I sometimes wonder if most men are bullshitting each other into a macho corner.
Don’t worry about it

I think he probably meant "why is a man making a sandwich comment worthy in this day and age. No one would have said anything if it was a woman "

I never said he was under the thumb I said hes taken that comment to mean that.

Read first or just dont bother posting !

I would feel the same as you did, but I assume his reaction was because he was embarrassed to have people know he did something that isn't a stereotypically 'blokey' activity.

What kind of sandwich are we talking about here (details matter)?

I love sandwiches 🥪 😋

Maybe he just wanted to be seen as typically “manly and unbothered”

Wouldn’t worry too much

Op I take it you have never experience bereavement, serious illness, financial worries or even, perhaps, running out of milk?

The reason I ask is that you seem to have no sense of perspective whatsoever!