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Friendship

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Designerenvy · 11/12/2019 00:25

I have this long term friend. I consider us close and we do a lot together and for each other.
Recently we both joined a group together in the community and have taken on roles, which require a lot of organising and delegation of jobs . There's a lot involved.
However, I'm finding my friend a bit bossy and over powering. Whatever I do, she never acknowledges it or reacts to it.
I think she thought I'd be pretty useless, but I'm even surprising myself with my organisation and how much I'm getting done.
I've been a SAHM for a long time and so has she, so it's great to have another interest and feel I'm accomplishing something , if that makes sense. However, that nice feeling is tainted because I really feel it could come between myself and my friend.
I praise her/ congratulate her on getting things done but she never does the same for me . And she sometimes takes credit for what I've done or talks down to me in front of others. Now, I do stand up for myself, I'm not a doormat , but I've never seen this side to her before .
I'm finding it very frustrating and very unattractive in her. I feel its changing my opinion of her and not in a good way.
DH feels its jealousy, but of what ?
How do I handle this ? Do I talk to her about it ? Do I just hope it all settles down so ignore it as such ?
I really do value our friendship but this is testing it .

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Pinkbonbon · 11/12/2019 01:05

Do you feel she turning it into a bit of a competition?

Designerenvy · 11/12/2019 10:52

Pinkbonbon, yeah maybe you're right. I'm going to say nothing for the moment, even though its upsetting me.
I'm going to distance myself a little, we do so much together , that a little less time together might ease the pressure too.
I'll meet her but just not as often. I'll distance myself a bit and see how things go.
Maybe we've just been around each other too much lately ? Who knows? I am feeling a bit deflated by it all , but time out might just help .

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