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Missed the chance to find love and start a family?

32 replies

TheP0 · 10/12/2019 23:14

Good evening,
This is a serious question regarding my cousin and any advice would be very helpful.

My cousin is distraught because she's 35+ and is very upset that her chances of meeting a man and starting a family is now probably very little if not nil, due to her age and it's really depressed her.
All that panic, stress and worry isn't doing any of us favours and i don't know what to say to her. I want to be supportive but after reading and analysing the future she's just certain she's missed out on the window of opportunity of a husband\love and a family of her own.

What can i say to support her? Does she maybe still have a chance? Do any of you lovely ladies have or know any success stories?
If it's not worded well, sorry, as English is not my first language.

Thank you so much!

OP posts:
Thatagain · 11/12/2019 13:24

Well said all!

SpicyRibs · 11/12/2019 13:55

Most men are arseholes. I'm currently pregnant and considering having abortion as my boyfriend is not being very nice to me. Pregnancy and relationships are not be all and end all. Most people in relationships hate their partners.

Projecting much?

Skinnychip · 11/12/2019 14:39

Some good friends of DH married a few years ago (first time for both) in their late 40s/early 50s, and are very happy together.
Another friend married earlier this year age 40. She had given up on marriage and DC and then got together with someone she had known vaguely for about 10 years.

Cheeseandwin5 · 11/12/2019 16:51

I suppose it depends what she means by family- and there are many kinds, but I assume she means a husband and babies by him.
To be fair it will be more urgent as time goes by but it is by no means impossible.
I think the challenge not to let it consume your life.

Original poster
TheP0 · 13/12/2019 00:56

thanks for all the lovely replies do apprecaite it

OP posts:
extraminx · 13/12/2019 01:06

Why didn't she manage it between age 18 - 39?

I think if you really are that "desperate" for a family, with my observation, its something women generally sort quite early on.

If you are prepared to wait to age 35 I think you have to accept which side the cards fall.

There are lots of great things about being single and child-free.

Redyellowpink · 13/12/2019 08:52

@Pinkbonbon will you marry me

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