Anyone else have this prob with their Dp ??

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Firstly I am not a troll, am a regular poster, just don't want dp to read this.

Basically i am so sick and tired of dp treating me like some sort of tart.

I cannot bend over without him picnhing my arese or grabbing my other bits .
He does it all the time, even in front of the kids. He will also cntinually make sexual comments to me, which i try and ignore, but he still does it.
He just cannot control himsefl and he has even made unsuitable comments to a friend of mine. She found it funny but i was horrifed and made him apologise to her.

The other prob is that he keeps waking me up in the night pestering me for sex. It's getting to the point that he wakes me up at least 4/5 times a night and i tell him no and then he sulks and i have to try and get back to sleep. I am knackerd.

I have told him that i do not like what he is doing but he thinks it's me that has the problem. He says i am not affectionate, and he is right i'm not because i know that if i show him the slightest bit of affection, he'll be all over me like a rash.

It's now getting to the point that i don't want him to touch me at all as he makes me feel cheap, and used.

He just seems to want me for sex and thats it.

Any advice please.

I don't think you have anything to feel guilty for. I think your last post speaks volumes.

Do you think your dp might be depressed? I'm in no way excusing him, but it sounds like he could very well be depressed. It also sounds like he has a major problem with intimacy, hence the porn, comments, groping etc. Did he have a very bad childhood? The way he is treating you and the children could be a reflection on what he experienced when he was younger. Again, not excusing him in any way. Have you suggested going to relate or some form of counselling? I honestly don't think that you will be able to stay together if it remains like this. My dh talked in much the same way in the first couple of years we were together (didn't do any of the sex thing though) and there is no way we would be together now if he didn't change. I mention your dp's past because that is what it was like for my dp. You must talk to him and confront these things, because they cannot be left alone. Good luck.

Hi back again.

Ripley, i don't know if he is depressed, he has been like this for years now.

His childhood was o.k, nothing special. He doesn't see his parents at the mo as we had a big falling out with them and i no longer wish to see them. They are not allowed to see the kids either.
I have told him i don't mind if he sees them.

Since he came home tonight he has so far pinched my bum twice, made some comment about me not having sex with him and said 'great tits' when i bent down.

It's got to the point where i am even having to think how i word things as he will make something out of nothing.
For example, my friend text me to tell me she had managed to sort her computer speakers out.
Dp asked me what the text said and i told him and was then trying to avoid saying 'she had them in the wrong hole', as i knew he would make some stupid comment. He said yeah i bet she did.

are you trying to escape his groping hands? - c'mon then - we'll look after you!

Thankfully he is in the bath at the mo, but thanks anyway .

Mind you i will have to put up with him flashing at me when he gets out.

well at least you've kept your sense of humour - thankfully me and dh a sexually matched (sigh of relief)

why don't you tell him he's given you a nasty dose of something and the doctors told you no sex for at least a month!

Waking you up in the night 4 or 5 times for sex is not normal. There is a world of difference between the 'You awake? Fancy a quickie?' line and what you are describing. How awful.

ps - ..... unless he wants his di*k to fall off