Need help

[Curiousl]

I just came on here to see if anyone else felt the same really.

Randomly Iv been feeling very down and my mood changes a lot. I just feel like I keep arguing with my DH for no reason whatsoever. I will be totally fine one minute and the very next I just get very angry an argue for no reason. This is really affecting me an I just feel like I have no control over my moods. In an instant I just so angry and because my DH is very calm I get more angry because I feel like I want some sort of reaction out of him. Bless him he's very understanding but I just don't know what's wrong with me an why my moods just change so quickly. I have a lot of good stuff going on in my life but yet I still feel really upset and down an then happy again.

Does anyone else feel like this ? Heelpppp

I felt like this when I was on the contraceptive pill. Are you on the pill?

I only started the pill last week. Whereas this mood thing has been going on for awhile. I used to have mood swings before but not as bad as I have been now.

I feel like I just don't know how to control it anymore. Sometimes I think maybe I have some sort of issue like bipolar or something lol but then I think maybe that's just me thinking abit too extreme ??

Yes, I want to divorce my DH once a month, like clockwork. Except when I'm pregnant when it's 9 months solid rage.

I'm never sure, maybe my hormonal self sees reality more clearly, and the rest of the time I'm overly passive. Or, could be, I'm psycho when I'm hormonal.

Similarly to @ipsy i went through a few months of bad mood swings with the implant.

Hormoane imbalance possibly.

@Notsurehowtofixit hahah that is exactlt me!! Like I actually feel sorry for my DH that he has to deal with me like this. When I was pregnant I was bad but I feel like I'm more worse now I get sooo angry an il do whatever I can to get him angry too. I feel like he's getting sick of me an I don't know how much longer he will be able to take it.

So many things can make you feel like that. Not odd at all. You get into the dynamics as well, and its harder to come out. Could be a number of things, hormones, been stuck in a rut with ur partner, stress, sudden changes in your life, lack of certain nutrients, vitamins or minerals, depression.... all of which you can seek help for. Start soul searchin and readin up about mental health. And dont get too worried about it. You realise your behavior and attitude are not being great: thats the best place to start changin things. Im like that on and off all the time. I have tendencies towards depresion. Overtime i got to know myself and now recognise symptoms and when to seek a hand to help me.

@Cream5 Iv only been taking the pill for a week so I don't think that's the reason, it probably will be in a month or so

@Startingoveragain1 yes wow your absolutely right I feel like what you said just hit a nail on the head so thank you. Obviously me having a baby was a massive change.

I find it very hard to explain this to my DH like to explain how I'm feeling an why I act the way I do. Sometimes I feel like he thinks I'm making excuses for my behaviour (not that I think my behaviour is ok) but I do think I need some help but just don't know what kind of help it is that I need. If that makes sense?

Read lots on self help, behavioural cognitive therapy (might all sound lile bullshit but it actually gives u great insight), visit ur gp (just having a professional acknowledge that what youre feeling is real helps a lot in itself). Tell your partner honestly, you dont know whats going on but yore finding it difficult to cope and ure sorry if ure being difficult at times. A new baby is a massive change in everyway and your hormones are on overload plus you just started the pill? No wonder youre in a bit of a state! Be kind to urself and look for some answers. Im sure ure doing much more amazingly than u credit urself for!

@Startingoveragain1 Awww thank you so much. I feel like you don't understand how much better you've already made me feel with everything you've said. An it's actually helped me an now I feel like I know what to do an the steps I need to take. Firstly I need to speak to DH an make him understand and apologise lol. Thank u you've been great! X

Bipolar doesn't work that way- the mood changes markedly, usually last weeks or months of them being one mood or another, then change back to normal or in the opposite direction, again for weeks or months (I have bipolar.) There is such a thing as rapid cycling bipolar, but someone wouldn't initially be diagnosed with that, they'd have been diagnosed with normal bipolar first.

What you describe is more like Borderline Personality Disorder. Their mood changes for hours or days usually, rather than longer periods, though they can also get depression, anxiety etc.

But if I were you I'd see your GP for tests- you might just have a vitamin deficiency or something.

Or, has something been stressing you out recently? A lot of us have personality disorder traits or even a personality disorder, but unless we're stressed we're ok.

I would get blood tests first or whatever your GP suggests.

Hugs xxxxx

I was diagnosed with Borderline/Borderline traits (as well as bipolar) but it turns out I mostly don't have borderline, but ADHD with autistic features. ADHD can make you have changeable moods etc. Might be something worth looking into if you've always been forgetful, disorganised, prone to losing stuff, saying the wrong thing etc.

I think see your GP first to rule out any physical cause. After that, try and get to see a consultant either through the NHS or privately.

Depending how recently you were pregnant, it could also be PND of course. x

@Interestedwoman thanks for replying. This has been happening for I would say a good few months. Where I would jus get really angry for no reason and then be totally fine the next. Then some days I just feel really lonely and annoyed with everyone but I have so many people around me. Sometimes I do feel like I have some sort of personality disorder as when I flip out at DH I just want to be all lovey Dovey the next an then if I don't get the affection from him then I'm just angry again. My moods are just crazy.

I don't really have much stressing me about as I have a DD but I get a lot of help for my MIL and other family so I'm not sure what's triggering the moods.

But your right I do need to see a doctor an get some help so I can get this sorted before my marriage does get to breaking point. Hope your ok too?? Thanks

I wouldn't say I'm forgetful or anything like that. But I hope your ok too as seems like you have a lot going on. An hope you have al the support you need.
But yes I will defiantly go to the GP.
My DD is 20 weeks so didn't have her too long ago but maybe that's had an affect too but I don't know. I know this might sound crazy but I think if I go to the GP would they think I'm not fit to be a mother or something of the sort ? An that's what scares me because I love my daughter so much an do everything I can to be a good mother. Or maybe I'm jus over thinking @Interestedwoman