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Original poster

Is she pregnant?

27 replies

girlanonymous · 10/12/2019 18:23

Boyfriend slept with his ex 2 and a half weeks ago. He told me right away and we've been trying to work on our relationship since then.
Yesterday she contacted him saying she had some bad news and he deleted and blocked her number. She's 49 years old.

Could she be trying to tell him she's pregnant? My mind is going insane, I'm currently 20+2 days pregnant myself, and already under immense stress.

If she is it will be the worst possible news to me.

OP posts:
Doyoumind · 10/12/2019 18:24

No. She's not pregnant

Thetellyisjelly · 10/12/2019 18:25

Op Sad
Dump this fucking dickhead x

Original poster
girlanonymous · 10/12/2019 18:30

We've just found out she was rushed to hospital today after her dad found her OD'd. She's alive.

I don't know what to do

OP posts:
MyNewBearTotoro · 10/12/2019 18:31

Leave your boyfriend and remove yourself from all this drama.

readitandwept · 10/12/2019 18:31

Quick turnaround in 7 minutes!

Original poster
girlanonymous · 10/12/2019 18:36

I've got a feeling he's going to go to hers to see if she's ok and if he does (he's currently at work) I'm going to be unable to go ahead with this relationship. Does that sound selfish? I can't have him see her again even if she did try and OD.

OP posts:
Doyoumind · 10/12/2019 18:41

Dump and move on from the drama.

LIZS · 10/12/2019 18:41

If she od then doubt she'd be discharged today. However him visiting her is the least of your problems, aim your anger at him. This is just the occasion he has admitted, could you really trust him again?

afterme · 10/12/2019 18:43

Sorry but I think it will take more than two and a half weeks to work on your relationship.

Mermaidsinthesand · 10/12/2019 18:44

You all sound like your 14!

So glad I'm not involved in your life.

Justmuddlingalong · 10/12/2019 18:45

Dump. And get yourself checked.

Bluebutterfly90 · 10/12/2019 18:48

Tbh I'd get rid, but yeah if he wants to work on it then he needs to not contact her or see her again, even if shes going through a hard time.

Berrylove · 10/12/2019 18:48

He cheated on you while you’re pregnant, that is such a vile thing to do! How long have you been with him? Honestly I think you should leave him immediately, it might be hard considering you’re having a baby together but I genuinely think it will be the best thing for you, especially in the future.

mindutopia · 10/12/2019 18:52

If your partner is old enough to have a 49 year old ex who he is banging behind your back (potentially putting you and your child at risk of STIs - you really need a sexual health check btw), you all are really too old for this nonsense. This isn’t the way to begin a stable, healthy family life for your child. Drop him like a sack of potatoes.

Instatwat · 10/12/2019 19:03

How did you honestly expect a website full of strangers to tell you if your boyfriend’s ex is pregnant or not?

You sound about 12. Your boyfriend sounds like a dick. Suggest you both move on and grow hpz

Instatwat · 10/12/2019 19:03

*up

Doyoumind · 10/12/2019 19:08

How about reading the thread insta? It's hardly long.

PixieDustt · 10/12/2019 19:09

I'm sorry OP you think it's selfish for you to end a relationship if he goes and sees her again? No of course not!
You know what is selfish is him going to shag someone behind your back and to make it worse whilst you're pregnant.
He is fucking scum.

FineWordsForAPorcupine · 10/12/2019 19:14

So him sleeping with her is something you think you can "work through". Him visiting her in hospital after an overdose is an instant dumping offence?

Thefaceofboe · 10/12/2019 19:21

@Mermaidsinthesand in what way do they sound like they’re 14? What 14 year olds sleep with their ex and then their ex takes an overdose Hmm

Hope you’re ok x

Courtney555 · 10/12/2019 19:26

Foul behaviour. Leave now. You deserve so much better.

Mermaidsinthesand · 10/12/2019 19:41

@Thefaceofboe erm, posting originally then 7 mins later finds out had an overdose? Thinking automatically after 2.5 weeks after sex shes pregnant at 49. Not dumping him for shagging an ex but going to visit him is dumping him

Good grief I could go on but got better things to do

CalleighDoodle · 10/12/2019 19:46

He isnt worth it

forumdonkey · 10/12/2019 19:51

That was a quick turn of events. There's still the bad news from yesterday yet if she took the overdose today.

KrampusTime · 10/12/2019 19:55

He cheated on you while you were pregnant. You'll never be able to trust him again. I couldn't move on from this, no way.

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