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How to make friends with neighbours?

7 replies

User555555 · 10/12/2019 17:24

Me and my partner are both 30 have lived in our home for 2 years. It’s in a rural area and we have not made any friends since being here. The average age of people nearby is 70+. We literally know nobody and it feels really isolating! On top of that my job is solitary so I feel very dependent on my partner’s company which I am keen to change. We are a semi-detached house and a couple our age has just moved in at the weekend to the house attached to ours.
They have not come round to introduce themselves.

We are wondering how to go about making friends with them if possible without coming across as desperate or weird! Grin

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RapunzelsRealMom · 10/12/2019 17:25

I'd buy a card and some flowers or wine and pop round to say hello.

I wouldn't go in, even if they invited me (they might just be being polite) but would invite them in for a coffee one afternoon soon.

User555555 · 10/12/2019 17:27

Ok that sounds like a good idea, would you specify when to invite them round for a coffee or would you knock on a second time to invite them for coffee?

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hobbler · 10/12/2019 17:28

I moved into a new house around this time of year a few years ago, and the lady opposite sent me a Christmas card and added in about how I was welcome round there for a coffee any time and to just knock. (I was really shy back then so never actually did Blush I regret it now!)
So you could go with this indirect approach, or just pop round and knock early one evening and say hi, or potter about your front garden if you have and see if you catch them and just introduce yourselves.
Christmas is the perfect time of year for this kind of thing though, ideal excuse!

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 10/12/2019 17:29

Just pop around with a Christmas card and invite them round for a coffee when they have time... doesn't have to be formal.

RapunzelsRealMom · 10/12/2019 17:30

"No, I won't come in thanks. I don't want to descend on you unannounced. Why not pop round for coffee on Saturday afternoon? About 2?"

Daddylonglegs1965 · 10/12/2019 17:31

I would take flowers or a bottle of wine and a card round and see how you get on. Resist the urge to be too pushy if they have just moved into a new home particularly at this time of year I am sure they will have a million things to do and are probably busy socially with work and other social and family commitments at this time of year.
You could maybe invite them round for a drink between Christmas and new year assuming they are not away visiting family or are busy entertaining family.

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 · 10/12/2019 17:37

Pop in with a card and wine/prosecco and introduce yourself! Christmas is also a good time to invite the neighbours in for a drink. Good luck!

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