My DH has deep-seated issues with money and finances. He cannot seem to reconcile himself to the fact that I earn significantly less than him. He is a high earner (many times my salary) whereas I earn a bit more than average salary (30k+) but work part-time due to our child. Many times over the years he has brought up my lack of financial contribution in the most hurtful ways. Whatever I say, I cannot make him see things differently and there is a fundamental logical disconnect in the way he perceives this matter. We have a beautiful home, holidays and everything a person could want, but deep down he will never be satisfied with his situation in life. He won't do counselling or anything of the kind. We have been married nearly 20 years and in a relationship for quite a few more.
So there it is. After our most recent row I have had enough. I don't want to separate but I can't go on the way we are. I am wondering if anyone has ever gone down the route of separating assets but remaining in a marital relationship? For example, changing the ownership of a property from joint-tenants to tenants in common? Negotiating a post-nuptial agreement? Changing wills? I would be prepared to negotiate a split of assets just to stop this conversation once and for all. We own more than one property, have some other assets and possible inheritances in the offing, so that makes this kind of agreement more feasible.
I am well aware that the other option is separation full stop, but for various reasons I would prefer to avoid that option and would be very interested to find out if anyone has gone down the above route.
Thanks, but comments along the lines of 'Doesn't he value what you do at home?' are all fruitless as no, he doesn't. 