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So confused-experiencing same sex attraction in middle age...

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Confusedmiddleager · 09/12/2019 21:51

I am a late fourties female, married (to a man) with children. Always considered myself straight but open minded in the general sense.
Around 6 weeks ago after feeling emotionally ‘off kilter’ for a while trying to work out what was up with me and realised I have developed stong feelings of both romantic and sexual attraction to a woman who I have met through a new hobby I have and who has been coaching me in said hobby. She is a very unusal and high achieving person in her field, basically I just find her fascinating/amazing/intriguing.
This is not the issue however what I am struggling with is the strong physical attraction, the heole situation has made me anxious and ill given I am as said already married with kids.
Even if I wasn’t, to the best if my knowledge she is straight herself (no kids and not married but has a boyfriend).
Cutting all contact is not possible for specific reasons I cannot go into here as would be too identifying, but how oh how do I cope with this...its overwhelming ☹️....

OP posts:
Fraggling · 09/12/2019 21:55

Did you post the other day? There was a similar post.

Anyway. Not unusual for women to find they are own to same sex relationships later on, for various reasons.

That probably didn't help you, but, happens a lot.

Given you're married etc treat it the same as if you got a crush on a chap, I reckon.

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