Meeting up with my ex

[argentinemango]

I went no contact with my ex. We broke up because he was experiencing terrible mental health. Amicable breakup and lots of chatting after etc., but I found it hard after the 4 week mark to keep this up and said I had to cut contact for my own sake (basically, I was still in love with him and speaking to him made it hard to understood why we broke up).

Anyway, he kept texting me a bit during the no contact with small chit-chat but I didn't respond.

The last two weeks (3 months since split) I have struggled immensely with not contacting him.

He is not one to express his emotions freely, but I received a text over the weekend saying "to say I missed you would be the biggest understatement of my life"

We've since arranged to meet up on Saturday (he will be driving to me). Is this a bad idea? I am going to be upfront with him and tell him all I want is a relationship, I can't do friendship. I'm just mindful of making it more dramatic than it needs to be - missing someone is natural, and I know it doesn't automatically mean you're meant to be with someone.

Would anyone here NOT meet up with him?

I think this is inevitably going to lead to your relationship resuming as it is what you both seem to want.

You haven’t given any details about why you split. So this is what it boils down to - what was the problem? Has it been resolved?

Booty call imo.
Keep tight a hold of your self respect and cancel op.

Theres a big difference between missing you and wanting to get back together.

I would want a clear picture of what he wants to get out of seeing you, unless its to discuss an official reconcilliation i would cancel and go back to NC.

It sounds like he may be being very selfish (Contacting you when you said not to) and trying to see you.

I know its really tempting because you miss him and seem to want to be together, but unless he wants the same youre in for more hurt.

As other PP said its probably just a booty call unless he specifically says he wants to get back together. Check his intent before you let yourself in for more hurt

Good luck

Not a booty call - sex was not a main part of our relationship.

I did this. What I didn't do was set a clear list of my expectations and boundaries. And we ended soon after. Be clear what you want. And don't accept any less.

Messing with your head is his thing imo. Getting you into bed will do that just nicely...
Tell him you need to rearrange as you have period pains...
See his reaction.

OP, I dont know for sure you're not the same poster, but his girlfriend has just posted about the message you received on aibu:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3766387-To-be-worried-that-my-partner-text-his-ex-this

@WeirdAndPissedOff oh my....

Whoa !

I would think this is the same poster @weirdandpissedoff
Why bother doing this? Mumsnet is people giving their time freely to help others - why write made up threads?

Why would you go to the effort of making up two posts?

Are you a shit journalist trying to make a story?

Busted