I know there's nothing I can do about it, but it's horrible.
My ex and I split up nearly 18 months ago when he left and it turned out he'd been having an affair for 6 months. I begged him not to introduce the woman to my children since they hadn't had time to process the split yet and he agreed.
He then broke up with her, got back together with her, and broke up with her again. So I'm particularly glad my children didn't meet her (in fact they had met her previously as she had been a 'friend' before the affair and had been to my home and met the children).
Then yesterday he messaged me to say that he and OW were back together and he was going to have her round for dinner with my children. Ugh.
Everytime I think I'm over it I feel like I get a kick like this. I wish it didn't affect me but it did.
After the split his mother refused to speak to me and hasn't done since. Even though we had been really close. My ex's father left and had an affair and his mother never really got over it and refused to have my ex's father at our wedding (she threatened not to come if we invited him).
So I just don't understand how he is going to suddenly introduce this woman to his family like nothing happened. It hurts that I now don't talk to them and suddenly she's going to 'replace' me.
My rational brain is telling me that they deserve each other and she's quite pathetic for having an affair then going back to him after hes' broken up with her twice(!). It's like they're all living in cloud cuckoo land...
I know I shouldn't care because I'm in a much happier, healthier relationship right now and I definitely don't want my ex back. I just also don't want this woman to be any part of my life.
Does anyone have any advice for dealing with this?