Will try and be thorough here.
So started seeing someone who lives local to me. It started as a very casual thing, I kind of went into expecting just a bit of fun and fwb type of situation so it started with us just spending evenings at my house. We developed feelings and he asked to take me on a proper date. He ended up coming down with a bug and we had to cancel, this hasn't been rescheduled. It's been about 2 months now and we haven't been out together.
He's told all his friends about me etc. We've talked exclusivity and he always tells me how much he likes me.
But he seems to have this really annoying habit of cancelling plans. They're often legitimate reasons ie him being ill, a family crisis etc but I'm just starting to find it really irritating that I can never be sure if he will actually turn up.
He has been ill again this week. We spent the day together and then from then on he went a bit quiet on me. I appreciate this is my problem, but I have a lot of anxiety about this because I've been ghosted so many times. So I just said after I'd convinced myself he was giving me the brush off, that was everything ok and I totally understood if something had changed but I'd rather know. He said it was fine, to stop worrying, he's just not very good at being ill and he promises things will go back to normal when he's better.
We then made plans for tonight. We usually do something on sundays because I don't have my DD. I text him at about half 5 letting him know when I'd be home. He didn't reply until about 20 minutes after the time I'd said I would be home and he just said 'im hungover'... I said does that mean you're not coming or is that a prewarning? He didn't reply for about an hour, and then said not coming sorry but are you around tomorrow?
I've honestly had the worst week, I felt crappy, I'd rushed back from my plans because I was expecting him, and to be honest I was just looking forward to seeing him. So I just said perhaps we should just leave this as you seem to keep cancelling and it's making me feel a bit crap, particularly when it's so last minute.
He's not read it/replied and now I'm confused. I don't really want to leave it on a dramatic text so im now considering a follow up saying I'm going to sleep on things but I also just feel like maybe I do need to put my foot down? I have no idea. I do really like him but I don't want to be hurt.