Why is he doing this

[alltheprosecco84]

Recently separated from husband in early October.
He moved out and met someone shortly after.

I've had a few dates.
He's planning on spending Christmas with her. The thing is up to last weekend, he was messaging me all the time, ringing constantly asking if he could come around.
I've said that if he doesn't stop, I will forward all the messages I've received from him to his new gf.
They say I love you, I miss you, you're the best etc etc
Now it's that he wants to be 'friends' and wants to go for a drink.
Did anyone else's ex behave in such a manner?
It was a mutual split and no cheating as far as I'm aware.
No dc. I'm 35 and he's 42.

Does it matter ?

You have nothing to tie you together so just cut him completely loose.

He probably wants to check if you are open for a pity fuck, tbh

You have no dc ? Block him why are you still entertaining any of it.

Odd behaviour alright! Maybe he's finding it hard to accept. Better not to blur any boundaries though if you're sure it's over. I'd steer clear.

I'm finding it hard as I'm having to find a new social life as well as ending my marriage.
I know I should block, I have, then it's the emails and I want a divorce ASAP.

Going backwards is not the solution

Keep going with widening your social life away from him. I wonder what his new squeeze thinks about him still sniffing around.

That's why I wanted to tell her, not to hurt her. Just to fuck him over and show some respect for other people's feelings.

I'm fantasising about posting the whole call, message, wattsapp log through her door on Xmas eve, leaving him with nowhere to go.
I don't even know who she is/her name.
But I'm not a cruel person and I couldn't bring myself to hurt someone like that.

Actually, that was a rhetorical question to ask yourself not a suggestion to cause all kinds of toxic drama

Just block him completely. It's quite easy to do...if you really mean it.

@AnyFucker
Have done now, I said in my last message that I'll speak to him through work email only in regards to divorce. I guess I was hanging on a little and I'll never move on if I don't break it.

Yep. My ex did this. He's now married her, but when they (apparently) first met he was still saying that he'd take me back!!! And how much he loved me. I ignored and would only speak about dd through my dm.
He gave up eventually.
Think it's a case of the grass is always greener.

Good on you for blocking. If he tries to draw you into other convo on your work email just keep repeating 'I am only interested in discussing the official divorce info. There is nothing else for us to discuss'. Or don't reply. Dont be drawn into his petty ego feeding games.

Stay strong x