My DH shared something on Facebook today that I found upsetting and inappropriate. It was a video of man taking a women as a sex slave and hiding her under his floor. She was trussed up in rubber and chains and her talked to her in the usual ‘porn manner’ ie dirty slut blah blah blah. There was no sexual contact.
I told him that I was disturbed by the fact he had even viewed it , let alone thought it was appropriate to share.
His answer was that he didn’t mean to post it, he thought he had just sent it privately to a mate. He doesn’t seem to understand why I should find it so upsetting. I have always been very clear on how I feel about porn degrading women. This casual sharing of a video that is everything I despise has shocked me. It makes me think that underneath it all he is a bloody sexist pig with little respect for women, seeing them as sexual playthings. He will honestly think that apart from sharing it on his timeline(to which he was mortified) he has done no wrong; that she was a willing party to the video and it was role play.
I am struggling to broach the issue without losing my temper.
Please wise ones give me some phrases to use that will convey my hatred of this whilst still keeping my cool .