Why am I with this man..

[Tiredandgrumpy47]

I don’t actually know why I’m posting, i need to vent and I guess I just want to hear stories about relationships that have been through the worst and come out the other end..

Met 9 years ago, wouldn’t commit to me for a year and I found out he was still sleeping with his ex the whole time. I was late teens and he was late 20s

Had our first child 5 years ago.... went through an extremely bad patch, sleeping in seperate rooms etc

2.5 years ago... I find out while pregnant with our second child he had used internet webcam sites to watch women and has racked up £2000 in a couple months

1 year ago... found out he slept with a prostitute

My life the past 5 years has been pretty horrendous (family deaths and fall outs) and that’s not including the things my Husband has done

Every time he does something wrong I seem to be at a really low point where I don’t feel I could ever cope being on my own, and I think he knows this.

Yeah he’s disgusting. You deserve more and I’m sure you’d be happier on your own after you got over the shock of it.

Watch a comedy, then pack a bag and go. Or better still, pack his back and throw his ass out.

You know you deserve better. No one deserves the shit he has put you through.

He will never love anyone but himself.
Take a leaf out of his book, think of yourself from now on.

I'd bet he brings far more misery to your life than he brings happiness, he has just ground you down to the point you can't see it. He won't ever stop doing these things, do you want that to be your life forever?

I give up, why are you with him?
End this, life is too short for this amount of unhappiness

How many more years of your life are you willing to waste on him? At some point you have to take responsibility for your own happiness.

OP, you deserve more out of life than this. You're stronger than you think and he doesn't help you, he drags you down further. Lose the dead weight.

So he was a porn or/and sex addict?

You will feel so much better without him causing you pain. You know you deserve much more than this, but I know it's easier said than done.

He has you believing you cant cope on your own...well you can...imagine not having a rat draped round your neck destroying your confidence and making you feel you could do better! Take a deep breath, pack his bags, kick his ass out and go about starting a new life...without him

I have no idea why you're with him either

He is always going to cheat on you. The question you should be asking yourself is are you going to put up with it or are you going to leave?

He wont change. Your child might grow up thinking this behaviour is normal.

Thanks for the replies

The biggest thing for me not leaving is our 2 children, I know everyone says it’s not healthy for the children being in an environment where we aren’t happy, but we are happy most of the time, I just feel down sometimes which I try my best to hide

I wouldn’t say sex addict as I don’t get much.... but I would say it was/is a porn addiction

I feel like I’m just waiting for him to do something else wrong... which probably won’t be too far away

Then I hope il be strong enough to do the best thing

Well, you won't be waiting much longer going by the above timeline. Remember, cheaters normally only tell you information you have found out. I wonder how many encounters he has gotten away with and you dont know about.

He won't ever change and the longer you put up with this the worse he will get.

I'm betting if you leave this twat you'll soon realise you felt more alone with him than being single.

You'll leave when you're ready. I don't think it's an if.

Because you are weak.

Sorry, probably not what you want to hear but almost certainly what you need to hear.

He has treated you like absolute shit. You deserve better. Leave the nasty bastard.