Regail me with tales of whirlwind romances that worked out well!

[Lemononachair]

I've recently started seeing someone, friend of a friend who I met in the summer. At the time he had a gf and although we liked each other nothing happened because he was attached.

He is now single, we've been on 5/6 dates and things are going really well. Too well! We just instantly clicked and it's slightly terrifying because I'm used to people who are only vaguely interested in me and hold me at arms length. Pretty much every partner I've ever had hasn't really seemed that invested in me but this guy is. He's not over the top but he acts like I've always wanted a partner to act. It's so soon though, and I am a massive over thinker.

I'm worried it's too good to be true! Please regale me with stories where people get together and it works out well so I can convince myself this is a good thing

I proposed 3 days after our first kiss.

We had known each other as friends for a few months before, and once we got together that was it. Married and in our first home together within 6 months.
We're in our 50s now.

A friend of mine read and replied to a lonely hearts ad in the local paper on the Monday; met him on the Wednesday, he moved in with her on the Saturday.

A tad reckless you may think except they celebrated their 24thy wedding anniversary this year.

I don't want to be negative but you mention you have previously been in abusive relationships and they often start out with lovebombing.

You haven't mentioned anything worrying about this guy but I would advise not rushing into anything (if he's the one then why rush?). If you have been previously abused, it is much easier to be sucked into another abusive relationship.

Read up on lovebombing and make sure you pay attention to his actions not just his words. I've learned the hard way that it's better to get to know someone over time than throw in everything you have after a few weeks.

The only men that have been 'perfect' in the beginning have been sociopathic and very good actors. I really hope that this guy is genuinely lovely though but never give anyone more than you can afford to lose.

I met my DH in March we got married in August
Just celebrated 20 years
He came home with me the first night we met and that was that 😂

Oh and both of us had kids I had one and he had 2 and he had only been divorced 6 months when we met

My husband split up with his wife on the Friday evening, we met on the Sunday I moved in on the following Thursday and 24 years later I love him more than ever

It's weird, it's only been a few weeks and I'm thinking of the L word already! There's even been talk of moving in together..

It kind of makes sense as we are spending pretty much all our time together already 😂

I'm sure there will be downsides but at the moment everything is so good! It's unusual for me 😊

Whirlwind one here too but still early days.

I was in an abusive relationship last year. Added someone I thought I recognised on social media and it ended up being a mad essay exchange of messages for weeks (nothing flirty just friendly) turns out we know each other through everyone else, had all these connections and things in common pretty much like best friends but we had never physically met. Loads of similarities in situations etc. A bit too good to be true.

He was there for me through helping me break up my abusive situation - never crossed any lines. He was my lifeline.

I broke up with abusive exP on 16th dec last year. We met a few times over Christmas - the first time I met him I felt physically sick I recognised him and he was so familiar. Sounds absolutely daft but it was like meeting My own soul.

Had our first night together on New Year’s Eve, absolutely magical. Said he loved me on 19th jan - but I knew he did no doubt about it. Said it back a week or two later.

I have NEVER been the romantic type and always been slow in relationships. But once you know, you know. He pretty much moved in to mine straight away. We do everything for each other, I have honestly never worked with someone so good as a team. He is my best friend - he has been from the start. After a year! We have had a wonderful breathtaking year, pretty much joint finances, we have a DD each from previous relationships. They are watching a film together as I type this cuddles up. They love each other as though they have always been sisters.

We just bought our first car together! and are saving for a mortgage.

He supports me 110%, he would go to the end of the earth for me.

I thought that this would last a few month at least but it hasnt, and we are heading in to our second year of knowing each other.

Beat decision I ever made was to trust in life and go all in.

If it doesn’t work, then at least you can say you was happy OP!

Best/**

Met DH my first night at university. He had no accommodation, so moved in to my room after three days.
He was an illegal resident on my all girls’ corridor in halls for two years!
We had 16 wonderful years and two daughters together, before his sadly early death from a brain haemorrhage at 36. I still miss him, 28 years later, and never remarried.

@Sunflowersok

He pretty much moved in to mine straight away.

Even though you both had kids and you had just left your previous partner?

Am I reading this right?

@readitandwept yep correct. our DD’s don’t live with us full time, he didn’t stay the nights DD stayed here until DD consented to it

I knew I loved my husband the second I clapped eyes on him. That was nearly 13 years ago. I say good for you and go for it!

Met in the September, moved in by November, engaged within 6months and married within 18 months.

My friend married her husband within 2 weeks of meeting... They've been together 35 yrs.

My ex boyfriends dad met his mum... Who was already engaged but obviously it was meant to be because because within 10 days she's called off the engagement and married my exs dad... 40 years later they are happy too.

First date went great. 366 days later we got married. Been married five years nearly with two kids. It's not all been plain sailing but it is what it is

My parent agreed they wanted to get married on their third date. They did wait till my dad had finished his apprenticeship but will soon be celebrating their Golden wedding anniversary.

Dh asked me to marry him on our first night together and moved in with me after our first proper "date". We'll have been together 20 years in a week's time. He said he knew I was the only woman in the world for him the second he laid eyes on me.

@Babdoc I’m so very sorry for your loss.

I’m a cynical old cow, but you know what? No kids to be hurt, roll with it. You don’t know unless you try. Nothing ventured nothing gained, good luck.

I moved in with my now husband just over a month after meeting him. I knew. He knew. Was a fucking weird feeling and I too worried at the time that it wasn't going to work out.

This was me too, pregnant after 4 months, together now 24 years, married 12, 5 kids. If you know, you know. The only thing I say is that we were both 29, so had some life experience.

I got engaged after knowing my DH for 9 months. We'd been together for 4 months and only spent 8 weeks in the same country.
Wouldn't have done it with a bit more age and sense but we've been together 16 years and still going strong, three children.

Knew him through work, started going out at Christmas, engaged in February, married in September. We're celebrating our Silver Wedding this year! He brought up my lovely daughter as his own, and we're now proud grandparents. Lots of life experience - I was 40 and he was late 30's at the time.