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Can I rectify our friendship? Is it done?

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BlueNile88 · 06/12/2019 16:05

I have a great friend. She used to be fun and outgoing but in the last few years I feel she's become depressed due to her awful bf.
She has been with her bf for 3 years however some of that time he was cheating with my friend.
He is red flag galore!
I've tried to point out his flaws without seeming judgy... Obviously I am!
He won't commit to her and she is constantly bailing him out financially.
I am getting so frustrated because she will cry to me about his lack of consideration and commitment but then change the goal posts.
She's given him ultimatus but never sees them through.

Last night I met up with her. I genuinely thought she was going to announce she'd dumped him but oh no she's now trying for a baby.

I am beyond angry with her. I know I don't have the right to be, it's none of my business but I need to vent.
It's awkward because we've had numerous conversations about her partner and how God damn awful he is.
Now i feel the friendship is going South and not sure if I can salvage it?
Any idea on what I could do to help? I don't want us to become more distant but at the same time I'm so angry.

OP posts:
Dery · 07/12/2019 12:26

Could you persuade her to read “Women Who Love Too Much” by Robin Norwood? I’ve just read that and got a lot useful insights. Does she fully understand the realities of having a child and that a baby is not a present for her DP but a human in her/his own right? Sounds very frustrating for you.

BumbleBeee69 · 07/12/2019 13:32

walk away OP, you can't be her emotional crutch lovely. Flowers

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