My husband had a 4 month affair which I found out about after he had split with her 2 years later. She blackmailed him for two years that she would tell me and she did on my birthday. She text my kids and me, they got it first and were devastated! She sent me some very nasty texts but I would not be drawn. She called herself scum when she finally spoke to me and I told her she wasn’t and I never wanted to hear her describe herself as that. After a few more begging texts to leave him I went round to her house to ask her to stop. She would not come to the door but I spoke to her parents and they stopped. She told me she worshipped him and he only wanted me when he could have had her. The sex wasn’t great she told me and that was a relief because it always is with us! This was 18 months ago. My husband has done everything to make amends for what he’s done. He’s done a lot of work on himself (and he is different, more in touch with me and how I’m feeling and how he’s feeling. We did counselling and that helped. He says he adores me and I think he does so why can’t I let it go? We go through periods of great happiness and periods of me just being pissed off with him and thinking how could you? When will this get better? I’ve feel I’ve moved on slot but now I’m stuck. Any answers would be greatly appreciated as I’m so stuck I feel like I’m sliding into a depression. I don’t think it’s fair that he’s still being doubted by me when he has done everything.