Why do I let friends' comments get to me ?

[Ladykady]

I've been talking to a guy I have met through an app for almost a week, and we have arranged to meet up.
He had 4 pictures on his profile, just normal pictures. Anyway, two friends have said he looks like a 'douche'.
3 friends have told me he 'looks gay'.
No idea why, he's not exactly dressed in drag or posing provocatively with men or anything that may suggest he was homosexual.
They are now making a joke of it. Some are saying 'still meet him anyway' and one is saying 'probably best you don't meet him.'
I asked why, and said it was up to me.
Don't know why they are all saying this but now it's put me off that several of them are suggesting he's gay based on 3 pictures.
It's annoying theyve made the situation negative because I was excited about him. Why am I even letting them bother me ?

Do not listen to them. Even if that is genuinely what they think, why do they think its ok to put you off like that? They sound jealous to be honest. Please ignore them and meet him. And don't show them photos of anyone else again!

Ignore them. They arent friends if they cant be happy for you.. Go and meet him and make your own mind up about him. Its your decision not theirs.. Have a fab time :)

How did it come about that they were shown his pictures in the first place? We’re you looking for some sort of validation/approval?

Don't ask them for an opinion in future. Just choose for yourself. Most of the time people tease when its anonymous. I'm sure theyd be lovely if you brought the dude to meet them eventually

I mentioned him and they asked to see pictures, and i'm quite open with stuff like that I don't really mind showing pictures or whatever.
It just annoys me how they have to rain on my parade so to speak, I have one friend and every single guy I send her she tells me he's not her type. Every single guy, it just seems coincidental.
Maybe she's just incredibly picky which is fine, but I don't know why she has to say it every single time.

You probably just have different types then, which is completely normal. It shouldn't matter if your friends think your bf/guy you plan to date is good looking or not - that's for you to decide

I think once you know something is an annoyance, it’s up to you if you’re resilient/patient enough to expose yourself to it.

I wouldn’t be bothered and I’d just keep quiet about new guys I’ve never even met yet until I had met them and formed my own opinion.

Yeah definitely, I think we do! It's just again how she has to say that every single one isn't attractive to her. It's not her dating them so maybe I should say something to her.

I dont think you should start anything or get into it. Just stop showing her or asking her opinion

'Good thing it isn't you going on the date then' and move on.

Maybe he does look gay and their gay dar is better than yours. More likely they are just bantering. Don't take it to heart.

But be mindful if they also put you down. Some people aren't friends, they are cunts xD

If you don't mind me saying, you sound quote young OP and seem to be more bothered about what your friend thinks of your guy 'choices' than you do yourself. You dont need to impress your friends with a fit bf and maybe you dont even need to date anyone right now. Just enjoy yourself and your friends