Family! Am I expecting too much?

[Mumofoneandanotherontheway]

It’s going to be a long one

I’ve got 2 young kids (4,1) hubby works full time & I’m a full time mum.
Abit annoyed with my mum tbh and I don’t know if I should be, am I just expecting abit to much and being childish.

I live 45mins away (by car) from her and the rest of our family, she has some joint problems but nothing major. She works part time and has 3 full days off in a row (mid week) and I just feel as though she should sometimes come down to us and stay 1-2nights or even come for the day. I used to always go down once a week to see her when my little one was in nursery as we had more time then and I didn’t have my youngest but now it’s abit of a struggle as he’s at school full time. I just spoke about this to my brother who said I’m being very childish and I should go down to see them. I said if I saw some sort of effort from her side then I would. She works Friday-Monday and visits her parents (10mins down the road) atleast 3/4 times a week. It totally annoys me as I feel she doesn’t come here because she’s so busy with them.

Am I being unreasonable? Selfish? Childish?
Thank you for reading if you got Upto here x

I don’t expect her to come all the time or every week for that matter but I would have thought she would want to come and see her grandkids sometimes. As for me going down, I have no issues doing that but I just feel pushed out like she’s not really bothered if I do or don’t. These are her only grandkids. I don’t expect child care from here I would just like to spend some time with my mum once in a while. If I saw some sort of effort from her side then I would of course make the effort too like I always have. I guess if I don’t then I won’t be making that much of an effort as I’m sick of being pushed out