Fucking Christmas.... massive wobble. Is this to be expected?

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I ended my marriage in July. Had severe breakdown after. Have had terrible year. Wont go into details here. Live on my own now as DD at uni. I am feeling so lonely and while I used to love Xmas I am really struggling with it all. Now feeling I made a mistake. Is this normal at this time of year? I desperately want to enjoy the season but feel it is all geared up towards couples etc etc. Just feeling very very low. I suppose I need to focus on why we split. Anyone else?

I've been there x ended my marriage and was alone my first Christmas. I decided to see if I could volunteer at our local soup kitchen but they actually put me in touch with a women's refuge and I helped out there for the day and absolutely loved it!

I'd have been home alone chugging neat vodka and eating my weight in chocolate else. Might be an idea for you x

Volunteering, not chugging near vodka 🙈😂

Do you have any family or friends?
I've been single a while and not spent Christmas on my own.
If you were a friend of mine you would be more than welcome so hopefully you have someone you can call on spend the day with?

The first Christmas after I broke up I volunteered to help at a local community theatre selling tickets and doing bits and pieces for them when they had their pantomime. It got me out of the house (where ex was still living and making life hell for me ). I was in floods of tears every night before heading off to help, so heaven knows what they thought of me with my bloodshot eyes and obvious just been crying face!

It didn't matter, it took me out of myself and I enjoyed the silliness of the panto and loads of people enjoyed themselves.

I’ve had a few Christmas’s on my own over the years (and it was awful) and currently been single 5 years now. This is my first Christmas without my young child though as he’ll be spending it with his father.

I’m dreading it, but I’m volunteering to help cook and serve lunch for the elderly / lone community who would otherwise be spending Christmas Day on their own

I'm not usually all that bothered about Christmas but I had a wobble this morning. I can emphasise with you

Sorry, pressed post too early.

I had a break up a few months ago. I recently went out for a work do and there were couples there and that made me feel lonely. I was also feeling sad that I've got no children to buy presents for as I love buying presents for people.

I think you just have to try and enjoy what you can of Christmas - meet ups with friends etc. If you are on your own on Christmas day bear in mind that it's just another day in the year.

Take care

Wobbling all over the place

It's not aimed at couples - it's aimed at happy families, and being in a "sad" family is likely to be much worse than being alone in reality.

I've spent a fair few Christmas's alone, and then some with friends and now my fiancé. They've been okay. Sometimes I've ignored the day, sometimes I've worked, sometimes I've got myself Christmas things that I love and had it by myself... and if you do want company, there are always restaurants and pubs open, and there's usually a lot of people out walking! Or check in with friends. People tend to be happy to have someone else around; and you don't always feel like you've put them out.

Will you have DD back with you when uni breaks up?

Have a lovely Christmas, and don't fool yourself into thinking it's worse because of the divorce. It's not - if you let for a reason, that reason is still there.

I understand OP. I’ve been there.

Focus on why you broke up. Do you really want a pseudo Christmas with him at your side?

And focus on the bits of Christmas that you like, from the big things (daughter coming home from university) to the small (carol service, Gavin & Stacey, drinks with colleagues, nice chocolates, whatever). Find some positives.

Next December WILL be easier.