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Has your partner complimented you appearance specifically?

9 replies

Divus · 04/12/2019 14:00

Hi! I'm just a bit sad. Probably overreacting. But still wanted to ask. Has your partner ever said what he specifically likes about you? Especially your looks?

Context:
We were watching TV yesterday evening and there was a couple shown who were asked to write down what they thought was the most beautiful/the best part of the partner's looks.

So I jokingly asked my boyfriend (who always compliments me how beautiful I am) what would he write down. He was a bit baffled. So I said 'wait for it, I already know, you would firstly pick my boobs, then you would pick my bum, and then you would say that I am overall beautiful'. He was very happy and said 'well yes, of course, it is all true'. Then I asked, are there any specific, non-sexual parts of my body that he liked? He was baffled again.. said 'well.. I do not know, you are just overall beautiful. Umh.. your eyes? Hair? umm..'. So I said well OK, I think you are beautiful overall also but I lovelovelove your hands and your beard and your nice hairy legs and also your cheeks.
And that was it.

So now I'm a bit sad that he cannot point out anything specific besides boobs and ass..

OP posts:
ItsNovemberNotChristmas · 04/12/2019 14:01

People really have these shit conversations??

Ohyesiam · 04/12/2019 14:02

You are way overthinking it.
You have someone who loves you, try to relax back into that. Ffishing for more will never get you what you want.

Womenwotlunch · 04/12/2019 14:03

Give the guy a break. He said that you were beautiful. It is not as though he hasn’t ever complimented you

AnneLovesGilbert · 04/12/2019 14:05

He has been specific? He’s nicely listed a handful of your attributes and said you’re beautiful and you’re sad. I’m confused.

Nomorewine77 · 04/12/2019 14:10

He's told you you are beautiful, more than once I'm guessing? I've never been complimented once in the entire of my 20 year relationship.

lifeisgoodagain · 04/12/2019 14:18

@Nomorewine77

Neither was I, I've found it really hard to believe compliments now I'm in a new relationship, especially when I was online dating. Last week being told I was beautiful and slim for the first time felt amazing because he really meant it (and I'm podgy around the middle and marching towards 50)

NameChangeNugget · 04/12/2019 17:14

You sound high maintenance and annoying

Princessfaffalot · 04/12/2019 17:20

Christ you sound like hard work. Before he even got a chance to answer for himself you jumped in with “oh I know you’d say my boobs” poor guy didn’t even say anything and then when he did say your eyes, hair, overall beautiful you weren’t happy with the answer! I feel sorry for him having to live with someone who throws manipulative pointless tantrums!

Sparkle567 · 04/12/2019 17:28

My eye said he liked my Defined cheek bones, my eye brow shape, I had big eyes, clear skin, nice hair ..

All over a period of time .. he called you beautiful though so your being over dramatic

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