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Fake it till you make it

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Crossroads19 · 04/12/2019 07:20

So I've basically realised that my DH is abit of an EA arse.

I think I have disengaged abit emotionally, it was like a lightbulb moment that I am finding it difficult to go back on.

I have tried to talk to him and have being honest about what's happened and how I feel.

Having had weeks of barely talking we are making an effort but things are still not great.
He seems to be focusing alot on physical contact whereas I keep telling him how hurt I am.
He tried to initiate sex and I tried to talk to him, but he just shut me down, again and I am once again on the receiving end of silent treatment. I get that he feels rejected but this is a direct result of him making me not even like myself at this point. He won't accept or acknowledge that though.
Has anyone being in this position where they have had to fake it till they make it to try and get things back on track?

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hellsbellsmelons · 04/12/2019 09:35

Why do you need to fake it though?
He shuts you down.
He stonewalls you.
He makes your feel shit about yourself?
He thinks you are a sex object and nothing more.
What are you waiting for?
Do you have DC together?

Honestly, what is the point of him?
What does he actually bring to the table?
How does he enhance your life?
How does he show he loves and supports you?

Can you just leave for a while to get some head space?
Life is short.
Do not spend it trying to get things back on track when it's a one way street.
You cannot fix this on your own.
Until he is accountable for his abusive actions, you cannot possibly move forward.
He never will by the way. It will always be YOUR fault!!!!!

richteasandcheese · 04/12/2019 10:41

If he's emotionally abusive, just fake the relationship till you have your ducks in a row to leave

Crossroads19 · 04/12/2019 15:26

I know you're both right.

There are DC involved and we have been together a long time.

I want to try and get through Christmas in the best way possible for all of our sales.
Will just have to suck it up and wear my best smile I suppose. Hopefully it could reignite a connection! I know he is going to blame me for the fallout of this Sad

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Crossroads19 · 04/12/2019 15:27

All of our sakes*

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