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Friend going through a divorce but she still loves him...

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Summer8900 · 03/12/2019 22:42

Some advice please!

A friend of mine discovered her husband had a girlfriend who he took on holidays many times (he told my friend he was traveling for work). This was going on for a year before she found out. This was a girl from work and he told everyone at work that he is divorcing...News to all of us though and to my friend.
On top of that he took my friend's savings to spend on his lavish lifestyle (trips abroad with friends, expensive clothes, cars...). He lied about everything sounds like.

She kicked him out and is in the process of getting divorced and her family and friends have been very supportive. However, she is still in love with this guy and I think she wants to go back to him. She told me she loves him and only wants him (not her friends/family...).

I am trying to be as supportive as I can be. Calling her, seeing her, helping as much as I can but I can't stand to listen that she still loves him and wants to be with him. Of course I can't tell her how to feel but this guy is disgusting and only loves himself. He spent all her money and she's now nearly with no savings.

Can anyone advise how to further help my friend in this awful situation and maybe how to stop myself getting mad over listening that she still loves him and miss him please?

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Chancey1982 · 03/12/2019 22:51

I took mine back twice before I eventually saw sense. I'd say let her do what she needs to do and support her either way altho it's gonna be tough for both of you.

Embracelife · 03/12/2019 22:52

She is in denial.
She doesn't want to accept the marriage is over.
She loves the idea of him

www.huffpost.com/entry/the-emotional-stages-of-d_b_779816

Chancey1982 · 03/12/2019 22:54

@embracelife very accurate article!

Summer8900 · 04/12/2019 09:23

Thank you

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