Anti depressants and sex life

[fropper1]

I'm after advice please. My DP is on antidepressants and says he has no sex drive.
It's really getting to me now. Can anyone tell me whether this will ever improve or do the tablets affect it the entire time you're taking them?
His depression is improving but he is stressed with work so that's not helping.
Also any tips on getting him in the mood but obviously without me pressuring him? I'm getting desperate and need a good seeing to!!!

Do you know which anti depressants he is on? When I was on citalopram my sex drive was unaffected. I'm currently on sertraline and have never felt less horny. The last time I tried to have sex I didn't feel at all aroused and couldn't orgasm. Normally I have no problem with either. I do know that everyone reacts differently with side effects. It might be that your DH needs to go back to his GP to discuss the problem as a different drug or dose could make a difference.

Both sertraline and citalopram killed my sex drive and ability to orgasm stone dead.

I'd also advise him going back to his GP to discuss the problem. Although, my GP wasn't particularly helpful when I did.

My DP takes anti depressants and it improved things. Critically he also stepped back from stressful workloads and situations. This definitely impacted more than the antidepressants ever did.

He did have side effects when he was starting out and building up. There was a bit of a loss of function but it didn’t last long.

By all accounts the side effects are hit and miss. He should wait for the initial side effects to die down but go back to his gp if things don’t get better. Encourage him to find ways to reduce or manage stress.

Thank you for the replies. It's citalopram, I think job stress is the biggest contributor. I would feel so selfish asking him to go to the doctor and mess about with his medication for me.
Sounds like I'll just have to ride it out with him till his situation improves and hope our sex life gets better then.

Another one saying didn’t get sorted till job stress, primary cause of it, was sorted. Once on the way to mending went to gap who prescribed viagra as the will had come back but not the way.

Gp not gap...though...

The side effects affect different people in different ways. Loss of sexual feeling/appetite/performance is really common and a big reason why many people stop taking certain antidepressants.

For some people it improves after the initial bedding in period, but for some people it does not and they have that side effect for the duration of treatment.

How long has he been on them?

I’m on Citalopram and my sex drive is zero. Mind you, I’m on it because my marriage is going down the pan, so not an issue, really...

I'm very sensitive to drugs and suffer badly with side effects. What I found made a big difference to how much they affect me was to drop the dose right back down, then increase it again at half the normal rate. Normally you increase sertraline at 50mg increments, I have to increase at 25mg increments. This involved a lot of splitting tablets in half and a bit of faff but I'm now back up to almost what my psychiatrist wants me on. The constantly sick feeling, dizzy and light headed feeling, wobbly legs etc that I previously had continuously at this dose wasn't a problem at all even straight after increasing it. My libido or lack of is still an issue but I hope that will settle down again with time.

Viagra might be an option for your DH OP. In the meantime, focus on lots of cuddles and giving each other massages etc to try and stimulate his interest again.

Thanks again 
@CruellaDeVille2019 great advice. I do give him loads of cuddles, massages are a good idea too