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[Deadtome]

Is it wrong to be really hurt when ex brings new GF to my favourite restaurant, one he wouldn’t know about if it wasn’t for me?

But he is too busy with his new GF to bother being a parent! Not that he was ever much of one before anyway.

Find yourself a babysitter. It's no good having any expectations of him, you'll only end up disappointed and frustrated, and he likes the power trip.

You need to disengage, so you don't have it rubbed in your face what he's up to. And you need to look elsewhere for support as he'll just yank your chain.

My abusive toxic ex slotted the new woman (think she was the OW actually) straight in. And proceeded to get the kind of camper I'd always wanted, in the colour I'd always said I wanted it in, got the kind of dog I'd always wanted but he wouldn't let me have, went on holiday with her to somewhere I'd said I wanted to go, everything we did together which admittedly he also didn't together with his ex before me and the one before her, he did with the new woman.

I was so glad to be out of it finally, that rather than think you utter cuntchops for doing all those things to get at me, instead I just pitied him for his need to do those things.

It's always difficult, but at the end of the day, if there's a nice place to eat, I'm not staying away from it just because I used to go there with my ex. Heck, in this town it'd mean I could never go anywhere, as there's not many places to choose from.

Totally thoughtless to you AND her actually. Let him crack on. Find a new man and new restaurant. Upload happy pictures x

I don't think it's a problem, I'm not staying away from places he likes! In fact I'm looking forward to bumping into him at the local watering hole, he was so smug about his girlfriend!

He probably half does it out of spite. Hoping it will hurt you (especially if you were the one who 'dared to' leave him).

That and as others have said - they don't have their own personalities. They steal bits and pieces (hobbies, ambitions, favorite places ect from other people). It's sad really.

But you can re invent yourself however you like to suit your own desires and needs. He will be forever bound to following in the shadows of others, pretending to be real.

Pick a new fave restaurant. Its worth it not to run into the soul sucking leach ever again.

My ex used to visit the same pubs as we did as a couple with his new girlfriend. It did not bother me because I was with my new man but I could tell he felt uncomfortable. Once he took his jumper off and handed to me instead of his new woman I threw it on the floor and said wrong person lol He then went up north live ... good riddance!