This is going to be long so sorry in advance. Been with ‘d’p for 19 years, we have a ds 17 and dd 13,(we did split for 2 years when dd was 2).
He’s always had an aggressive and hostile side, it’s got to the point now where we’ve all had enough, with both dc, saying they can’t take it anymore.
The last few weeks, he’s been really horrible to us all, just generally talking to us like shit, the atmosphere is tense when he’s around, and we all walk on eggshells.
We all want him out but I’m scared of how he’ll react, the property’s in my name, so no problems there, it’s just getting him to go without any fuss. I’m at a loss at what to do.
Ds is under cahms for anxiety and depression, which I think is due to the way he’s dad is, and i can see dd going that way too, and I feel so guilty, I’ve tried so many times but failed. I just have a constant nervous felling in the pit of my stomach, I feel like such a failure.
I could go and stay with my sister or aunt for a few days while he sorts he’s stuff out and goes but I have a cat and dog what I don’t want to leave with him, incase he takes it out on them, plus I know for a fact ds won’t want to go anywhere, so I don’t know what to,
This is just a brief summary!, but there’s so much more I could write.
Also he doesn’t lift a finger at all, I work part time and he works full time, so apparently it’s my job. There’s a family group chat with he’s family and my dc told me that he was ‘joking around saying I’m he’s maid and he’s the king of the castle
. He so disrespectful and sexist.
He does have good points but the bad outweigh the good, and enough is enough now. I’m at a loss of what to do.