Will my ex always be difficult?!

[Bringiton2019]

Does anyone else have a particularly difficult ex husband/partner?

My ex seems to make it his mission to be difficult or make things difficult for me.

We are supposed to share custody of our DD but he no longer has a car so therefore I've been having DD Mon - Fri, and him on a wknd. It's myself that's bought all school clothes, accessories (which is not cheap). I get no financial help from him.

I work shifts so I need his help when I can't collect DD but he always makes me wait for an answer, or that he doing me a favour.

I would look to seek advice but can't afford a solicitor, any ideas on how to move forward.

Csa would be a good place to start.

I mean it would be a start on the financial side.
I think you need to give him as little room to control you as possible. So find someone else who can collect dd.
I dont think its fair that he gets the weekend and you get the drudgery of the daily grind.

There are lots of MNers dealing with similar who will have much better more detailed advice.

Definitely raise a claim with CSA.

You need to get a formal agreement in place.

Are the CSA just financial? If so, I know he doesn't have any money anywhere.

I would hire a solicitor if I could afford it.
I don't have anyone else to pick up and drop my children off unfortunately, so I'm that respect I'm a bit stuck 😡

Yes he will always be difficult. Even if he doesn't work he still has to pay a small amount so definitely go to cash. Weekends can be alternated he definitely doesn't get every weekend.

Why does he no longer have a car? I hope your not doing the driving for him.

I'd honestly look for a job which doesn't require childcare rather than let him control me. How old is your child?

Ex partner or ex husband? Where is he living now?

Go to csa not go to cash

Can you not go to mediation and try come to a suitable contact arrangement?

You don’t necessarily need a solicitor if you were to go down the court route as you can represent yourself. If you are just wanting regular contact on set days and this to not be diverted away from I don’t see the need to splash out on a solicitor as you aren’t fighting to stop him from seeing your dc or trying to prove he’s a danger etc.

You can get a court order application for about £210.

Mine had been a twatt since we split 8 years ago and I don't think he'll ever change sadly!!

DD is 8 so still very young.
Unfortunately my job is needed to pay for everything myself and my DD require.

I just wish I had more support and did not need him to help out so much.

Mediation sounds like an option, do I need a solicitor for that or can citizens advice will help?

You don’t need a solicitor for mediation or to go to the family court if they doesn’t work, particularly for child arrangements. If you were married you can choose to get a court order re finances but people tend to go down that route, rather than csa, if there are assets to split.