I'll try and keep this brief but also don't want to miss any details or dripfeed..
I was on a night out on Saturday in the town BF lives in, he said he would pick me up at the end of the night and we could go back to his and spend the day together on Sunday. We were in contact all evening, I had had a few drinks, he sent me a message saying what I thought was that he was going for a nap and would get me later but instead what he was saying was he was going to bed. I got a taxi to his and felt a bit stood up tbh, his place was in darkness and he didn't even say hello but was definitely awake. I had a bit of a go and said I feel as though I make all the effort to see him and he turned around and said I shouldn't make the effort then.
I apologised on Sunday morning for my overreaction which he accepted but then was acting off with me all morning so I asked if he was still annoyed and he said yes, he feels I belittle him all the time, doesn't love me anymore, doesn't want to live in the town I'm from (we've been discussing living together and both said where I live is best fit for us both) and he doesn't feel he can go on, he wants a break until after Christmas and then we'll talk!
I feel totally blindsided by this, he's never said I've upset him before at the times I'm supposedly belittling him and it's the first I've heard that he doesn't want to move from where he stays. I feel like if he had spoken to me about it I could have changed the way I'm speaking to him and also that we could have discussed living other places, I'm open to that! Instead, he's been annoyed in silence, falling out of love with me and I'm going along thinking everything is fine and so now I'm absolutely gutted. I don't really want a break and am so worried at the end of it he's going to say he doesn't want to see me anymore. I also feel really stupid because I've already got his Christmas present which was something for us to do together - a ticket for each of us to an event that can't be swapped into someone else's name and involves a night away.
I'm not even sure what I really want from this thread, I haven't told anyone about it because I don't want to until I know what's happening if we're staying together or not and until then I feel as though I'm in limbo. Maybe if someone could just tell me to get a grip or he's being unreasonable that could help!