My boyfriend 32 has a problem with obsessively watching Netflix. MY NETFLIX because he’s cheap.
I only see him on weekends because I work in another town. I always have to travel to him (1 hour train then 20 minutes metro). He never pays for my train and now makes no effort during our weekends together.
He will get back from work at 1.30am, light a spliff and turn on Netflix. He won’t go to bed until the morning. This weekend I gave up went to bed at 5am and he followed at 7.30am. He then slept all day even though it was our one day together, before work in evening. He wasn’t even sorry.
I went out with friends but missed the last metro home at midnight (I’m new to the city and my friend wouldn’t stop at dinner). I asked boyfriend to collect me if I paid fuel (20 min drive one way). He picked up my message at 1.15am (one hour waiting outside in the cold) but told me “I will dine first”.
I said, what?
He said, I will eat first with my friends and my boss
I said, there are drunk people here (drunk man tried to sit next to me outside the dark train station and I felt scared)
He said, yes it’s Saturday night
I said, I’m alone outside the station
He said, it’s not my fault
Uhhh hello, wtf? He finally showed up at 2.10am and I was freezing my butt off in the cold with no coat. I hadn’t planned to go out for dinner with my friend and I haven’t asked for him to collect me before. Who leaves their girlfriend out in the middle of a city she doesn’t know, scared and asking for help, but you eat first !??
I have asked him if he can plead be more romantic or thoughtful to me. Last weekend he did the same Netflix crap and was farting at me. He wouldn’t come with me to get a winter coat and said “it’s not my fault you don’t have a coat”. Ok so you want your girlfriend to get sick from not having a coat??
He wouldn’t go to the supermarket even though no food in his apartment and you have to drive to the shop because it’s far and I didn’t feel comfortable driving his car on the other side of the road. So I hardly ate anything like a prisoner.
The weekend before that I got a strange bug bite that made my elbow swell like a golf ball. He wasn’t arsed one bit and didn’t even try to offer help like some ice or the doctor or even a morsel of Interest in my wellbeing.
He ignores me a lot of the time and is never affectionate. He feels weirdly uncomfortable holding my hand on the sofa or in public. He is highly critical of me for tiny things like how to fill a dishwasher. I realise because his mum is the same with him. He never tells me he loves me or any compliments. He has the audacity to say I am always complaining 24/7 when I’m not!! I hardly tell him anything even though I’m struggling at my new job because I know he will criticise me for “complaining”
We’ve been together 1.5 years and I’m not happy but it’s like Stockholm syndrome. I’m scared to leave. Can somebody just tell me what Im supposed to expect from a relationship??