why is he like this?

[illbethereforyou1]

Hello. I have been a bit upset today as I'm not feeling well and haven't been for a few weeks (cough & cold) I have started to notice this frustrating thing my bf of 4 years does whenever something has happened or gone wrong for me. Examples would be last night we went out for dinner & when we were walking home I said I hoped it wouldn't get icy this winter as last year I fell over & hurt my back his reply was something like 'well you are clumsy so don't blame the ice'. As I said I'm poorly at the moment & coughing so much I've hurt my ribs, the pain is excruciating & a little sympathy might have been nice but when I was clutching my side while having a coughing fit he told me not to over-react & it's probably muscular pain. I had to practically beg him for a glass of water. But the one that really upset me was a few months ago I got my hair done & she completely ruined it, I went in with long blonde hair & came out with a brassy ginger hacked bob.. I wanted a refund & for this person to apologise & it was like my partner was on her side, he said 'well at least she tried to fix it' & that I shouldn't go around telling people what she did as it's her livelihood 🤔
These things are all minor which I'm glad about but I feel like god forbid if something awful was to happen to me he would probably say something like I asked for it. Thank You for reading.

He sounds like a twat, and he doesn't like you much, does he? Is this behaviour recent?

Sorry OP but it sounds like a lack of respect for you.
As your partner he should be backing you up in a situation like your hair, my partner would be livid on my behalf!
This sort of behaviour isnt acceptable, but you cant change how people feel about tou.

He seems to hold you in contempt.

Surely even single life would be preferable to spending time with someone who considers you contemptible? Effectively, an enemy?

Oh god. Dump him. He sounds like an argumentative prick.

He holds you in contempt.

You deserve better. Can you see yourself putting up with his unsupportiveness [sic] for the next however many years???

And you love this contemptuous shit because... well, what? What are you getting out of this relationship, exactly? Do you like being insulted and ill treated when you're ill? Do you think this horrible behaviour is acceptable?
I'd dump him, and start looking for a partner who will actually love you, care about you and have your back.

Your partner should have your back at all times. Yours doesn't. My ex was like this. He would never defend me and it was always my own fault. That's why he's an ex.

My ex was like that, told me I was fainting on purpose, I'm now on beta blockers so clearly I wasn't faking. Nobody needs people like this in their life. Those kinds of people just want to be centre of attention and don't want anyone else getting the sympathy.

I had a mum who spoke to me and treated me like this. I dont speak to her anymore and havent for years. Neither has my sister. Why? Because its abusive and neglectful from a mother. I nearly died of a serious virus because she told me i was faking it.

Difference for you is, he's just a boyfriend so dump him. Can you imagine him treating your future kids with the same contempt? Not a nice thought is it. Get rid.