Boyfriend says his feelings have changed

[Whattodo45]

I have been dating someone for 2 months (both 31). He asked me to be his girlfriend after about 6 weeks of dating. Now last week out of the blue he said he thinks his feelings may have changed and he’s not sure about us. Then the next day did a U turn and processed feelings for me and said lots of nice things. He basically said he had had a bit of a wobbler due to it being a new relationship, and that he hadn’t been in a relationship for years and was a bit set in his routines. I said OK and decided to hopefully put it behind us. He has then gone on holiday for a week and barely contacted me. Yesterday I asked him if everything was ok and he said once again he was trying to figure out his feelings and couldn’t tell me what he definitely wanted right now.
I feel really annoyed that he has gone back on what he said after convincing me he wanted to be with me. I am not sure how to proceed and have not responded

*professed not processed

His feelings may have changed = He wants to break up but is a coward so is wanting you to do it for him.

You're only two months in and he's already being a mind fuck. GET RID.

I would ditch him. If he can’t decide whether he wants you, then you shouldn’t hang around on the offchance!

I couldn’t be arsed with those mind games....he’s not a teenager. He’s a grown man who knows perfectly well how he feels. It sounds to me like he’s trying to cool things off so he can either ghost you or you’ll dump him and he won’t look like the bad guy. If I were you I’d text him and say “you’re obviously not ready for a grown up relationship and I have better things to do than wait around for you. Goodbye” and block.

He's not head over heels or anything close. Walk away, we all deserve better than this. You are on egg shells because he appears to be calling all the shots.

He likes the idea of a gf but in reality he prefers his own space and 'freedom'.

Either that or now that he has a gf he is getting flighty. I find often once guys have a confidence boost, they start thinking of the 'bigger better'. More fool them as being that shallow, we ladies usually cotton on.

Either way, he's not for you. Stop letting him call the shots.

2 months? Dump. Fella sounds like a complete waste of time.

Sorry but he is messing you around. I think he wants to end it but too much a coward to admit it. Get rid of him far too much Drama for such a new relationship..

Honestly, he's a melodramatic mindfucker. You don't need this. I'd get rid of him. Don't waste your time on this type of person, they get off and blowing hot and cold and having you chase your own tail. Life is too short.

Take your power back. Good's message is perfect. You don't owe this person anything more than that. Send that and then block.

Don't invest another minute of your time on him. Either tell him you're done with it, or block him and move on.

Not worth it OP. If it’s a lads holiday he’s likely to be fucking around. Someone else could be in the background? You honestly deserve someone who, well, deserves you. This guy is not that guy. You can, and will hopefully do better when you get rid. Cutting it off now means you have the time to focus on you, and the right man, whilst he’s still ‘working out his feelings’. Wanker.

He sounds half baked,and flakey, and shouldn't be too upsetting to bin off after a two months relationship.

Only response required here is "that's absolutely fine, now off you fuck"

Dump. Why would you want someone who didn't know whether they wanted you?

Life’s too short. Dump him.

I'd almost understand it if he was 14 but 31? Exit immediately.

We are all allowed to change our minds. However, if he really liked you he would be in no doubt. Don’t let him string you along. He doesn’t like you enough to be sure - keep your dignity and move on.

8 weeks! Come on Op, you need to throw this player back.