Partner has just walked out

[Kezmum14]

I’ve just asked to see my partners phone. He’s gone mad at me, packed a bag and walked out. I’m 9 weeks pregnant and 3 weeks ago he gave me an ultimatum that I get rid of the baby or he leaves. He knows I wouldn’t ever have an abortion but I didn’t say either way and we’ve just been carrying on as normal. So I kind of knew he’d leave once it became obvious that I was keeping the baby. Anyway, I just needed to vent as I’m determined not to contact him. He’s so horrible to me and I think I’ll be happier without him, I just love him so much. I’ve got a whole Christmassy day planned with the children so that should keep me busy and I won’t let him ruin that at least.

He sounds like a useless waste of space...arsehole.

The fact you asked to see his phone means you already do not trust him. Him giving an ultimatum regarding the baby would have been a deal breaker for me. You are better off without him.

Hope you have a lovely day with your children

You will eventually be glad he is gone. So sorry.

I was coming to offer sympathy but instead I'll congratulate you on your pregnancy and offloading of what sounds like a waste of oxygen!

Have a lovely day with your kids. Whole you're out but some new locks

Congratulations on your pregnancy! Have a great day with your children and try to forget about your arrogant man child! 💐

It's just an excuse isn't it? What was there on his phone that he didn't want you to see?

He'll probably change his mind and want to come back, but he's a waste of space. You're better off without him. How dare he? Why do you love him anyway?

You’re better off without him.
What age are the older kids? Are they upset?

Better now than a few weeks/ months / years down the line.
What were you thinking might be on his phone?
Sounds like you are much better off without him. You might love him but he clearly has no love or respect for you.

Same as pp, was coming to offer a handhold but sounds like the faster he goes and never comes back the better. Congratulations on your pregnancy!
Just be prepared for the fact he may well try to come back . The pregnancy ultimatum is a deal breaker but hiding the phone and going crazy when asked for it is just awfully suspicious.

He sounds awful and it's crazy to have another child under the circumstances. I'll never understand. You already have other children to consider. I hope you can afford to support all your children without his help. He is doing everything to avoid being responsible and he may be cheating if he won't let you see his phone.

Why did you ask to see his phone? and why didn't you tell him you weren't having an abortion?

Also, sorry how long have you been together, are the existing kids his and did you discuss having another child?

We’ve been together 7 years and our youngest is 4. A couple of months ago he was speaking to another women, I forgave him and we have tried to move on. I asked to see his phone as I’d noticed he had snapchat - through my friends list on mine and that was one of the ways the other woman had asked to communicate with him. The pregnancy wasn’t planned but I don’t believe in abortion for me, which he knows. So he knew I’d never agree to it. I was just hoping we could see Christmas through for the sake of the children really. Fortunately, I have a good job and I own my house so a baby, although will be a struggle, I know I’ll manage.

Anyone who gets funny over their partner seeing their phone is untrustworthy. Well rid.

You sound like a strong woman and you know you will be better off without him. Enjoy Christmas with your kids, enjoy your pregnancy. You are going to be so happy with your new life without this waste of space.

Congratulations on your pregnancy. Maybe he’s using you not getting an abortion as a way to blame you for problems he’s caused in your relationship. Hope you can stay strong x

Congrats to you on your pregnancy. You sound strong and are financially in a good position so I'm sure you will manage.

Wishing you and your family a lovely Christmas; he didn't deserve you.