Please help me I'm desperate

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My husband on weekly sometimes daily basis likes a drink which I have no problem with, but a certain lager disagrees with him. When he drinks this he is angry over the slightest little thing and takes it out on me, he rips into me like everything is my fault and like I'm the most horrible person he could ever meet. Part of this I think is due to his ex partner as he has called me her name a few times when drunk and has called me nasty names that are not relevant to me but to her. I'm so hurt and upset and I'm not sure whether I want help from the doctors or whether o should just kill my self, I love my husband so much; I madly in love with him but can't cope with this mistreatment anymore, im a nice person and do everything for him he does does nothing and I always make sure he's looked after, in return I get him having a go at me and I can't cope no more, please help as I can't do this no more

I’m not sure if you meant to post this in bloggers chat, but the relationships board might be better for advice.

I am so sorry that you’re feeling so lousy and your dh is treating you like this. Is there anyone you can call in real life? Even the Samaritans may be able to help. It certainly isn’t worth losing your life over his issues 🙁

Hello OP, we are really sorry to hear you are feeling this way.
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We've moved this thread to Relationships for you as we felt you'd get more support than in Bloggers Chat

A certain lager does not disagree with him. There is absolutely no evidence to suggest different types or brands of alcoholic drink produce different behaviour. Research that if you don’t believe me.

So this ‘certain lager’ is a lie - it’s just an excuse he uses to abuse you.
It was him. That’s who he is and what he does.

I am so sorry. You should think about ending things with him. He’s not a good man.

I am an alcoholic in recovery I was a nasty drunk like your DH. Please leave you need to look after yourself at the moment your husband is in love with alcohol you come way down list of priorities. Try Alanon you will get support there. Your DH is full of anger and bitterness the alcohol is the key which unlocks it. You do not deserve to be a verbal punch bag. Go plz look after yourself you deserve better than this.

Don’t kill yourself over this alcohol addicted, nasty man, you are worth so much more.

Is there anyone you can confide in, so that you can get some support?
A friend or family?

You need to start making plans to leave him, but you should phone and speak to Women’s aid as he is abusive.

He will wear you down and destroy your self esteem, and no man is worth that.

Do you have children?

Are you renting or do you own your house? Are you on the deeds?

You need to leave him, but you need to do it safely.