Date nights?

[Amipastityet]

How often do you have date nights? Been married 17 years and I can count on one hand how many we have had.

Married 10 years and only been on ones I've organised so about 10 in total..other than that fuck all

At least once a month depending on babysitter availability

Every few weeks but we don't have children

I don't understand calling it "date nights", my husband and I go out alone often, we don't call it a date, we call it going to the pub, or dinner, or the movies because that's what we fancy doing,

What's the difference between a date night in a long term relationship and going out and having dinner because you can't be arsed cooking or just fancy it?

Most weeks we go out once on a weekend.

Usually a meal and a few gins. Sometimes cinema, sometimes an evening walk. It's not particularly interesting places it's more that we get a bit dressed up, have a good catch up and a laugh.

Snowybunny Would you go on more if you had the chance?

It's not particularly interesting places it's more that we get a bit dressed up, have a good catch up and a laugh

Isn't that just normal going out?

Op are you saying you have been out just the two of you a handful of times in seventeen years , or you do go out, but you're referring to some form of special "date" version of going out?

It is just normal going out, but then I'm not pretending to not understand what the OP means by date night as the words make some MNers teeth itch

What constitutes a "date night"? My DH and I go out all the time...to the pub for a few drinks, for meals, to the cinema. Do they count, or do you have to label it a date for it to count?

Bluntness100 what I'd call going out as a couple, no kids, for a meal and one of us having a drink and being romantic. I plan lots but but nothing ever comes of it, DW is either to tired or "we'll do it another night" is the usual response I get. I even suggest an evening in front of the tv with a film, instead of the usual dribble, and same again postponed usually at the last minute.

That sounds really sad and boring, sorry. Dh and I have been together 11 years with 2 small dc (under 7). We used to have a night out once a month (after eldest was 2, before we had youngest one). Youngest one is nearly 2 and we are eagerly awaiting a weekend away a year from now to Amsterdam. We also have almost no family help. Where we do have support, it’s paid. If in 17 years, you have rarely spent anytime doing so fun together, that sounds like a conscious choice (a ‘date night’ out does not necessarily or often equal sex, btw).

@Amipastityet yes I definitely would buti got tired of being the one suggesting them then planning them every single time.
Hes happy enough to go when I say we should but isnt arsed enough to ask me or suggest places etc.. so I cant be arsed anymore.

I’m tired of this shit, too. If it’s his friends asking, he’s off like a bloody greyhound. I’ve told him I’m tempted to set up an online dating profile.

You can have dates at home. No phones for the evening and cook nice food and watch a film or play board games etc

Only when little one who is 8 months grandma has her overnight , maybe every 2/3 months and its normally cinema and a meal out
A piss up/ night round town now is very rare as I cant deal with the hangover day afternoon and dont like been hungover with my daughter it makes me feel like a bad mum.

Would love to have dates at home as suggested above but that never happened either unless it was me arranging it once again

When we were still together, exW and I would try and go out twice every month. My parents were usually willing to babysit and/or we had a reciprocal arrangement with friends and would alternate fortnightly. Our DC were pre-school.

With my DP now, we’ll do things together at least once a week and we average about 3-4 weekends away a year as well. We’re fortunate to both be working and (much less) fortunate to have weekends where both sets of DC aren’t with us.

DC grown up so date nights every week - cinema/theatre and a meal, but when DC was young - date nights were rare as hens teeth.