Please keep me strong. Im leaving him tonight. Abusive relationship.

[Whattheduckisthis]

I dont know where to start so am going to just throw it all out and hope you lovley people help stay strong like you have so many OP's.

Im in my late 20s 2 dc, ds 8 from previous relationship dd 18 months from current relationship. Dp of 2.5 years.

I fell down 3 stairs and badly sprained my ankle early friday morning while holding DD, shes fine thank godness. I cant walk weight bear and need to rest it for 3 days as told by hospital dp has enjoyed every second of me needing him to help me with dd knowing im not capable at the moment and after a barrage of being called a fat cunt a shit mum etc etc today im finally doing it im leaving him. He has been living at his mums for few months again as i told him to leave after another punch to the face and he today keeps saying if i dont give him money he will not help me with dd. So after he has fed and bathed her tonight i am going to refuse the £200 he demands and he will leave. Then i have no choice but to go no contact. Ive left him before. Ive had police involved and let down by them so much so this time no police no drama im just going to go no contact.

He looks after dd very well when he has her on his own i have no issues with him seeing her he can arrange this through someone else maybe court i dont know.

Own house rented, own income. I cant walk. But ill do this

My kids deserve so much better. I need to smash this.

Im going to 100% reach out in the next week or so. I feel lighter... i cant wait till ds comes home tomorrow to not walking on egg shells with me about every little thing!! Thank you all xx

well done lovely keep us updated xxx

Well done. Please don't take him back.

Anything is preferably to living with an abuser.

Congratulations on your new life OP.

Awww OP I wish you every bit of luck with your two children in your new life!

I hope your family and friends come back to you and have a wonderful, stress free Christmas x

Op well done . Please log the last punch in the face with the police even if you don’t want to press charges . It will help protect him from unsupervised access especially if children were there at the time.

Well done

Awesome job!

Defo call the police if he comes back.

What's the house situation? (Might be wise to start looking for a new place if he has any right to be there).

Wow! You strong lady. Well done but keep safe please.

Really well done OP. Stay strong. It may seem it went quite easily but you need to be prepared for shit to really hit the fan soon. So stay strong and prepared. You’ve got this!

Oops just realised you said it was your own place, rented. Good!

Might be wise to change the locks just incase he does have a key though.

Fingers crossed he won't come back. Don't let him in the house again.

Well done you

Well done @Whattheduckisthis an extremely difficult decision to make while you're impaired by your ankle too.
Just a few weeks now until the next decade & you can really look forward to a happy new year

well done OP!!

Be strong and dont let him back!

Regarding your daughters contact with him - unlikely! he might use her to get back at you, be prepared for this. Tell him take you to court, if there is domestic violence involved you will get help with legal fees

Leave your key in the lock for tonight so that he can't get in, just in case he's had one cut.

Stay strong, things will be tough but he'll be gone.

Keep strong op. You don't need this shit in your day. Or in your child's lives. Get in touch with the friends he's cut off. I'd be there in a flash if I knew someone in this situation even if I'd not seen them a long time. Message them tonight. You need all the support you can get. He will be back trying to give you shit. Then trying to be lovely changed man. Then back to calling you a cunt. Get so.e support around you so when that happens you are not doubting your decision.

I think it's awful how some people can treat others, especially those who are supposed to love you. Think of today as the first day of the rest of your life, how happy you and your children will be, and practically being able to do what you want.
I'm on my own with my 2 DC's, and I started again from the bottom by doing an access course and now in Uni, and it is hard but I wouldn't change it for the world.

I wish you and your children the best of luck and if you ever feel yourself weakening, just think of all the reasons why you ended things, that's what I do and I instantly know, I've made the right choice.

You are all amazing and thank you all for your support. I spoke to my mum last night baby steps and all that. I woke up in so much pain with a migraine dd keeping me busy it will soon pass.

I made a list last night of all the things he has done to me

Rape
Beaten me
Slapped me
Punched me
Hit me during labour with dd
Isolated me
Killed my confidence
Changed me as a person
To name a few.... keep adding to the list and reminding myself it will be worth it.

I need to find myself again but i dont know where i start!

It will happen naturally. You are still you, and without his malign influence you'll soon grow back. I really recommend slowly reaching out to those lost friends and family though. I'm sure most of them will be really happy to see you again and it's a good way of reminding yourself who you really are.

pog100 is right. You'll find yourself naturally. You've got this. You are amazing.