Coercive control

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Does anybody know what somebody has to do before the police will talk to you about this? I keep hearing that it is very hard to get a charge. The domestic abuse unit won't even talk to me about it. Just keep telling me via other people that it doesn't meet the threshold. What is the threshold? Anyone know where I can find this information? Thank you

The OP has already confirmed that she has split from this man. The police have arrested him and he has been charged with 2 offences and there is an emergency injunction in place. From my understanding the OP has now reported him specifically for acts of coercive control. The police have taken the report but informed her the report doesn’t meet standard for either further investigation or charging.

The best advice to the OP has been given. Contact WA and get their support to secure legal aid to take further action In relation to court orders and their separation. They can also help with any further reports to the police.

I asked women's aid for help with reporting to the police in ths summer. They have someone call me but she said they didn't help with that.
The police still haven't got the full story and it has taken 5 months for them to even log a call with regard to coercive control. They just don't want to hear it and I dont understand why

So have you left this man for good now ?
It doesn't sound fair what your going through but I guess if you have left him now I'd just be greatful your free. Xx

Yes I've left him but I'm far from free. There is ongoing financial abuse. Im going to be taken to court for thousands of pounds I don't have. I have been told that he is currently running up.further debts in my name. I am.very far from free 😭

threatened to put a bullet in me if he catches me cheating

This is threatening to kill. It's a chargeable offense. I would contact womens aid again and ask for their assistance in getting cooperation from the police. Be willing to make a full statement.

What did he steal from you?
In what way did he coerce you to have unprotected sex (don't say if you dont feel comfortable). These are potentially 2 other chargeable crimes.

Technically, coercive control is a crime. However, it's only - afaik - been successfully charged once and that case also involved significant physical violence. You need to find the other, more chargeable crimes in his conduct to have success. It's not right, but it is what it is.

I wouldn't focus to much on the cohesive control if I was you an just focus on the fraud side and get help in regards to that as that's probably the only thing he will get charged with as you've managed to leave the situation x

Unfortunately sorting the money stuff relies entirely on the police acknowledging the coercive control

'Coerced unprotected sex so that I eventually fell pregnant'

That is legally rape. If you report all this as coercive control it seems you're finding it hard to get them to act on it, but if you report it as rape, at the very least it'll lay on file against him.

Interestedwoman he was arrested for rape (different incident) and they had decided before they even spoke to him that they weren't going anywhere with it

Yes, I had that happen one time with a bloke too, it seems the police do that these days (!) But it still will be on record, so if you come forward it'll add to it, and anyone else who does adds again. It'll lead to a prosecution- if not for you, for someone else.