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I can't forget last night

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ihatejoe11 · 29/11/2019 22:04

Newbie and long post.. sorry. Just back from 5 days abroad, new relationship (3months) all was perfect until I got a dodgy stomach last night. About 10pm said go down to the AI bar enjoy the last night (we had made friends (couples mostly).He said I will have a couple of drinks, get a kebab. Half an hour later he's sat at a table with 4 German girls (about mid 20yrs) drinking tequila, and whatever else. From the balcony I heard him comment on one girls boob size, being flirty, telling them all where he comes from. Then one girl said 'if it's not working, do something about it'. He saw me sat on the balcony and they all shouted for me to join them (in my pjs, dodgy tum and really angry/upset). He stayed with them another hour before staggering back to the room. It was an awkward flight back today and he thinks he's done nothing wrong.. any advice please?

OP posts:

Legomadx2 · 30/11/2019 05:42

Very straightforward- get rid

Sohololopopo · 30/11/2019 05:44

Fuck me leave him for goodness sake!!!!

allyjay · 30/11/2019 05:46

No woman would put up with that surely? Get rid of him he's a sleazy, disloyal shit.

Creepster · 30/11/2019 05:51

Keeping up a pretense is hard work.
I am sorry he is an asshat but glad you have seen through his pretense early days.

allyjay · 30/11/2019 05:55

So which bit does he think you're overreacting to op? The bit where he comments on another woman's boobs or the part where it sounds like he's told a group of women that your relationship isn't working?

I wonder how he'd react if you'd been sat with a group of young German men flirting, commenting on their dicks and telling them your relationship wasn't working hmmmm?

Vanhi · 30/11/2019 06:51

Then one girl said 'if it's not working, do something about it'.

Well that could have been in response to any number of things. I'd dump him for the boob comment though and for acting like he's single when for you it's a relationship. I would bet if you look back now you'll think of other things he's done which have bugged you slightly but which you've let slide as they were "only minor, no-one's perfect". Either dump him now, or in a few months time his mask will slip again and you'll be asking the same questions, but by then you'll be more involved.

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